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this thread sure changed direction....
I was talking to someone once a while ago, not sure how long ago but certainly within the CC and cash back era. This person didn't believe in credit cards, paid everything in cash. Had little if any debt. Then he said he tried to purchase a house. Guess what? He had a very low credit score and had a lot of trouble securing a mortgage. If he was even able to do it. I don't remember the end of the story. There are hidden advantages to having and using credit cards.
This one is inaccurate. If he had a low credit score, it meant that he missed payments, not that he didn't have a credit card. His poor credit was due to poor money management, not lack of credit cards.
My lack of financial planning has left me in the current position that I'm in. Sadly I have a 790 credit score. I wish I was in the boat of the story that you're trying to tell of your "friend" above. In approximately 8 years... because that's what it will probably take, I hope to have no credit score. It's not a zero or a low credit score... it's literally no credit score. To me, those are the people who have finances figured out. I realize I am going to be in the vast minority on this one, and I am proud of it.
Those who worship the "all mighty FICO score" are great at owing people money. That's literally all a high score means. You live off paying debt back to someone else, and you're really good at it.
In 1 year, I will not be a slave to the lender. In 7 years, if all goes to plan I will not have a score at all. It's true, some lenders are so stupid that they look at the all mighty FICO score to see if they should loan you money. There are a rare few who are smart enough to look at someone's finances and personal wealth to see the true story. You can finance a house without any credit score at all.
There are also those who pay cash for their house and cars. That's the category I have more respect for than the group trying to win vs a credit card company for their extra 1-5% back in the debt rat race.
#DaveRamsey
Our FICO score has given us capacity in the sense we have access to credit should we want or need to use it.
Capacity. It's worth having.
I think getting a credit card for that person, even for 6-12 months would have good credit. Even if they only used to for gas in a vehicle. Then made the $60-200 payment, balance paid in full, every month. Lack of credit history can be improved simply be making payments. I'd think utility bills might generate credit history too. I'm not really sure about that. Also if that that person has checking account and it's eons old it should help.This one is inaccurate. If he had a low credit score, it meant that he missed payments, not that he didn't have a credit card. His poor credit was due to poor money management, not lack of credit cards.
My lack of financial planning has left me in the current position that I'm in. Sadly I have a 790 credit score. I wish I was in the boat of the story that you're trying to tell of your "friend" above. In approximately 8 years... because that's what it will probably take, I hope to have no credit score. It's not a zero or a low credit score... it's literally no credit score. To me, those are the people who have finances figured out. I realize I am going to be in the vast minority on this one, and I am proud of it.
Those who worship the "all mighty FICO score" are great at owing people money. That's literally all a high score means. You live off paying debt back to someone else, and you're really good at it.
In 1 year, I will not be a slave to the lender. In 7 years, if all goes to plan I will not have a score at all. It's true, some lenders are so stupid that they look at the all mighty FICO score to see if they should loan you money. There are a rare few who are smart enough to look at someone's finances and personal wealth to see the true story. You can finance a house without any credit score at all.
There are also those who pay cash for their house and cars. That's the category I have more respect for than the group trying to win vs a credit card company for their extra 1-5% back in the debt rat race.
#DaveRamsey
Funny story though.drove home a new car instead
I'm one of the 10%. My personal disposable cash spending is limited to $350/month. Covers everything I spend excluding gas, utilities and rent. Everything else is paid with cash. I use my CC mainly for fuel and oil changes.I am no financial expert but I do believe that his credit was no good because they didn't have a record to go by. I do know that he didn't have poor credit because of poor money management. He didn't owe anyone anything, ever....
Maybe I worded it wrong and it is not the low score.
"Sadly I have a 790 credit score." Is this a typo or do you not know scoring? 790 is a very good FICO score.......
Yes you can finance a house with no score, but, if you don't have a score at all, lenders are going to be leery of lending so you will really have to work to find a lender. And you will probably end up paying higher interest rates.
I pay off my card as often as I can. I have also carried a balance when things came up and I needed money and didn't want to drain my accounts (plural) to get the money. My credit is good, I get the cash back. I give a little to the evil Credit card companies, so be it.
"There are also those who pay cash for their house and cars. That's the category I have more respect for than the group trying to win vs a credit card company for their extra 1-5% back in the debt rat race."
Yes commendable but those are very rare people..... Cash for a house is something that I would guess less that 10% of people could ever do.
I am no financial expert but I do believe that his credit was no good because they didn't have a record to go by. I do know that he didn't have poor credit because of poor money management. He didn't owe anyone anything, ever....
Maybe I worded it wrong and it is not the low score.
"Sadly I have a 790 credit score." Is this a typo or do you not know scoring? 790 is a very good FICO score.......
Yes you can finance a house with no score, but, if you don't have a score at all, lenders are going to be leery of lending so you will really have to work to find a lender. And you will probably end up paying higher interest rates.
I pay off my card as often as I can. I have also carried a balance when things came up and I needed money and didn't want to drain my accounts (plural) to get the money. My credit is good, I get the cash back. I give a little to the evil Credit card companies, so be it.
"There are also those who pay cash for their house and cars. That's the category I have more respect for than the group trying to win vs a credit card company for their extra 1-5% back in the debt rat race."
Yes commendable but those are very rare people..... Cash for a house is something that I would guess less that 10% of people could ever do.
Right, beats carrying large amounts of cash.Credit cards are generally only a good idea for people who don't need them so, in that case, just use a debit card. They're like casinos: they aren't there to lose money.
Credit cards are generally only a good idea for people who don't need them so, in that case, just use a debit card. They're like casinos: they aren't there to lose money.
Credit cards are generally only a good idea for people who don't need them so, in that case, just use a debit card. They're like casinos: they aren't there to lose money.
If you are fiscally responsible,
I agree. I used to think debit cards were stupid--paying for things that cost $2 or whatever. I like them alright now.Right, beats carrying large amounts of cash.
I've not found that to be the case. Fraud has occurred twice with mine and fully reimbursed, no questions asked.Somebody gets your debit card and your account can be drained in a matter of hours with little recourse.
You need a mad money fund. Its for buying things only you want and you dont rationalize or ask permission for. Wife gets one too. It is funded by a portion of your joint salary, something you both decide on.
Never try using the "I earn more money so I deserve....." Statement in any arguement.
It is my opinion that paying down debt quickly is a noble goal. Cant blame your wife for that.
I'm sure its not just school loans either. Both have car loans or leases right. Mortgage? Pay now or pay more later.
Hey, this is coming from someone who makes more money by upselling people on more gear. I just choose not to unless customers demand it.
hey, we were asked . sometimes its the blunt truth is what the person really needs to hear. Not a kneejerk, yeah you tell her boiiiiThe temptation is there. However, we shouldn't talk about the OP. The mods will delete it if it's the wrong tone.
I donno... does she have a younger sister whom enjoys your homebrewing labors?
hahaha, she does and it is her sister and my brother in law who gave us the idea to set things up this way.
My brother-in-law was the one who got me into home brewing too.
That's cause it was a mistake #1) to buy stuff without talking about it first, then #2) to come here for back up.Yeah , OP kinda ducked out on his own thread...Lets hope the advice given made an impact and he and his wife are discussing it.
Point- Marriage is a TEAM effort with respect, compromises /sacrifices and agreements .Most of all, communication at all times.
Yeah , OP kinda ducked out on his own thread
My wife took a long drive back up north to visit family and attend a 1st birthday for her cousins baby girl. Yesterday she texts me a picture of an oktoberfest shes having at the LHBS I used to go to . She asked me what I wanted while she was there. I wasnt expecting it so I had to think quick.
So - shes bringing me back an Oatmeal stout grain kit, a 10# bag of Weyermann German Pilsner malt and a couple pounds of chocolate malt.
So , you see, its a definite respect and communication thing when it comes to your hobby. If your spouse enjoys what youre doing , she will help you.
Fellow Brewers,
My wife gets very angry every time I make a brewery upgrade. The first time, it was the 5 gallon Spike conical (~450) and she was very angry as she thought it should be a mutual buying decision aka I should have asked her before I spent my money. This time it was the Spike hot liquor tank (~650). She is livid. On both purchases, I used Klarna which allows one to make 6 months in payment plans 0 percent interest.
I love the hobby of brewing and I am slowly upgrading my brewery to the exact way I want it. It would model the Spike Brewing system when I am finished. She doesn’t understand why I keep buying expensive things to brew with and just wants me to use what I have. In a way, she’s right. I can brew with what I have but I want to brew with what I WANT. I went to college for 10 years and sacrificed almost all of my twenties to earn a doctorate degree. Not to boast, but Ill just be breaking the six figure mark in salary this year. I want to enjoy my hobbies. We have a considerable amount of debt that is being slowly but surely paid off. She wants most of my pay and hers to go to paying off debt but where is the enjoyment on sacrificing after you have already sacrificed 10 years of your life to get where you are? Anyways...
Do any of you guys/gals deal with the same thing from your significant others and if so, how do you manage?
My wife took a long drive back up north to visit family and attend a 1st birthday for her cousins baby girl. Yesterday she texts me a picture of an oktoberfest shes having at the LHBS I used to go to . She asked me what I wanted while she was there. I wasnt expecting it so I had to think quick.
So - shes bringing me back an Oatmeal stout grain kit, a 10# bag of Weyermann German Pilsner malt and a couple pounds of chocolate malt.
So , you see, its a definite respect and communication thing when it comes to your hobby. If your spouse enjoys what youre doing , she will help you.
Nope, i dont push any limits. Im very grateful for the things she does for me.You didn't push the limits? Ask for a 50 pound sack of Maris Otter, a 50 pound sack of Bohemian Pilsner, 2 kegs, a jacketed conical fermenter??? Then see where she stops you??
Wise man...Nope, i dont push any limits. Im very grateful for the things she does for me.
My wife took a long drive back up north to visit family and attend a 1st birthday for her cousins baby girl. Yesterday she texts me a picture of an oktoberfest shes having at the LHBS I used to go to . She asked me what I wanted while she was there. I wasnt expecting it so I had to think quick.
So - shes bringing me back an Oatmeal stout grain kit, a 10# bag of Weyermann German Pilsner malt and a couple pounds of chocolate malt.
So , you see, its a definite respect and communication thing when it comes to your hobby. If your spouse enjoys what youre doing , she will help you.
mine asks me to fuel/start the weedeater for her while I cut grass. She weeds, I edge.Exception: She enjoys me cutting the grass but will not help. Haha.
I dont understand that . we have a joint bank account ...we both work, its OUR money , she does the budgeting because I'm not that organized. Sometimes I have to ask if we can buy this or that , she will tell me - not now,after next check ,or yes .Wise man...
If she bought it for me, I'd owe it on my disposable budget. I have to watch what I say. I asked for 150 lbs of grain she'd asked for the cash upon getting home with the goods.
This is really going off OP subject but-I've heard of that type of thing happening as well. I bought my first house just shy of my 20th birthday and remember having zero problems getting a loan approved (mid 2004), but kept getting consistently denied credit cards until I was about 22 due to "lack of credit history". Just wanted a simple one for monthly subscriptions (Ahem, Everquest addiction..). Even the damn Sears cards were out of my reach. If my cousin wasn't the manager of the local store, I probably would have gotten myself banned from it from various heated arguments with salesmen. And in retrospect, it wasn't their fault, but arghhhh.
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