A lot of folks will tell you all grain tastes better, but I've brewed beer from canned kits that have blown people away, including my neighbor who is an all grain brewer.
As far as control goes, I can take a canned kit add steeping grains, hops, minerals to the water and change the yeast which will all vary the end flavor of the product. So, you do have some control with that type of brewing too. To me, the biggest difference is cost - all grain is cheaper, but takes a lot more of your time. If you have the time and want ultimate control then do it. I take a compromise approach, maximizing my time while still applying a great degree of control over what I brew.