More questions from me! What do you mean by "sparge four times going from kettle bo bucket, back and forth" It sounds like you mean you're pouring wort back and forth.
When you sparge, you want to use water (only clear water), to "rinse" the sugars from the grains. You want to NEVER pour the wort over the grains, except to strain the first little bit (called vorlaufing). Running wort back through the grains, instead of sparge water, would definitely reduce the efficiency. Or am I misunderstanding what you are saying?
It's easiest if you put your grains in a strainer above the pot and just pour the water thoroughly over them until you reach your boil volume.
Thinking of a washing machine. If you just rinsed the clothes with the same water you used in the wash, it would not get all of the soap out. In the same way, that's like mashing, lautering, and sparging. You mash to get the grains and water all mixed up, using 1.5 (ish) quarts of water per pound of grain. Stir the heck out of it, like your washing machine agitates the clothes. After the mash, you can drain that wort and put it in the pot. Then, either add your sparge water to the grains and stir it up again like it owes you money and drain that, OR put the grains in the strainer over the pot and pour clear water over that. Either way is ok.
But 'rinsing' with wort means that those sticky sugars will stick back to the grain and not come out, since the whole principle here is diffusion. You want to rinse your grains (sparge) only with water.