Men: Getting snipped. Yay or nay?

[Schol-R-LEA]

As I've said elsewhere, I'm seriously thinking of doing a lot more than getting snipped. I'm not sure if I'll have the balls to do it, but if I do, well, then I guess I won't...

I am genuinely ****ed up.

Getting back on topic, if I remain male and get involved with a woman at some point, a vasectomy would be one of the first things I would do. I'm too old to get into raising children (born in late 1968), and never wanted any in the first place. IMAO, creating a new sentient being is depraved cruelty and nothing less.

 

[Mirilis]

i had my pre op appointment and im scheduling it for January.. i have 3 kids already and im done

 

[Psylocide]

As I've said elsewhere, I'm seriously thinking of doing a lot more than getting snipped. I'm not sure if I'll have the balls to do it, but if I do, well, then I guess I won't...

I am genuinely ****ed up.

Getting back on topic, if I remain male and get involved with a woman at some point, a vasectomy would be one of the first things I would do. I'm too old to get into raising children (born in late 1968), and never wanted any in the first place. IMAO, creating a new sentient being is depraved cruelty and nothing less.

Uh...

 

[Schol-R-LEA]

Uh...

****! I meant to cut that last part, it was rather... intemperate of me. It's more a reflection of my general depression and disgust at the world than anything I really think. I just... I can't see how anyone could have a child in such a rotten world and feel good about it, sometimes.

As for the rest, the first part is TMI, I'm sure. The second part, about being too old, well, yeah, I can't see become a parent at 47, it sounds like it would be too demanding by half even at 23.

Hell, I should have just kept my mouth shut. I probably ought to just delete that whole post. Sorry.

 

[Psylocide]

****! I meant to cut that last part, it was rather... intemperate of me. It's more a reflection of my general depression and disgust at the world than anything I really think. I just... I can't see how anyone could have a child in such a rotten world and feel good about it, sometimes.



As for the rest, the first part is TMI, I'm sure. The second part, about being too old, well, yeah, I can't see become a parent at 47, it sounds like it would be too demanding by half even at 23.



Hell, I should have just kept my mouth shut. I probably ought to just delete that whole post. Sorry.

Well personal preferences aside... What would be the reason for considering castration?

 

[The_Dog_42]

Hell, I should have just kept my mouth shut. I probably ought to just delete that whole post. Sorry.

Personal opinions aside, I don't think you should delete that post. There may be a lot of confused people but it sounds like you're in a transition period and reaching out for support is definitely a worthy (and very human) action.

I won't say I understand the transition, but what you're going through isn't to be marginalized.

Two things I have in mind though:
1) Lots of insurance will help with the cost of a vasectomy and (from the little I understand) wouldn't affect the other operation.
2) it sounds like you don't want kids.

GOOD LUCK!

 

[WesleyS]

Well, looks like its inevitable. I'll probably be getting the ol' snip snip sometime next year. Only have one kid, but went through so much with her, we don't want anymore children. Just gotta finish working up the nerve to let someone do painful things to the boys. And see what coverage, if any, my insurance starting in January has for the procedure.

 

[Mirilis]

it is 100% covered by my insurance.. I am thinking most insurance policies are.. look under voluntary sterilization. Typically its like around $1500 to have it done so the insurance company is much more willing to pay that than 80% or 90% of the birth of a child

 

[grrickar]

When the doc says to take it easy, he means it. I sat on the couch and vegged out for a few days. I don't think I have been that relaxed since LOL. I had zero complications, but the doc told me some idiot he snipped decided he was back 100% and decided to go....wait for it....horseback riding! He said the guys balls swelled like cantaloupes...eek

 

[chisena]

Nay!!! What if you need to procreate again!?!?

 

[hunter_le five]

Nay!!! What if you need to procreate again!?!?

I don't want to procreate a first time.

 

[blizz81]

I don't want to procreate a first time.

I give plenty of life by means of yeast reproduction.

 

[hunter_le five]

I don't want to procreate a first time.

Frankly I don't think the collective human race wants me to procreate a first time.

 

[chisena]

I don't want to procreate a first time.

Probably for the best [emoji6]

 

[Venari]

Fear not, there is an upcoming alternative!

http://www.iflscience.com/health-an...ng-implant-could-be-latest-male-contraceptive


However, it was designed by a CARPENTER, so I suppose it's a risk.

 

[kombat]

Uh... I'll stick with the 15 minute, simple, permanent procedure, thanks. I'm not going to change my mind on kids, so no need to endure the extra complication/expense/risk of a bleeding-edge, experimental device that may or may not work.

 

[Twins_Dad]

Fear not, there is an upcoming alternative!

http://www.iflscience.com/health-an...ng-implant-could-be-latest-male-contraceptive


However, it was designed by a CARPENTER, so I suppose it's a risk.

I would be afraid of excessive movement of the area in question flipping the switch back on without my knowledge. I would be P*SSED!

 

[Mirilis]

well i got fixed on Friday.. it wasn't all that bad.. i never took any of the pain medicine they gave me and the pain is only mild discomfort. The killer is my wife kicked me out of the house for the weekend.

We had talked about it once before after my consultation appointment and she was not totally on-board and so after some debating i told her that i wouldn't schedule the procedure because I dont want a rift in our marriage. A couple weeks after that she seemed to be cool about it and said she would schedule it so she set the date, and kept saying "i understand the logic, and it makes sense to have it done since we have 3 kids already. I just dont like that i will lose the choice to have more if i want more in the future". She also said things like "I will be an ******* the day of it but i will eventually get over it".

well I had it done and the minute we got home she kicked me out and i spent the weekend at my dads house. she finally started talking to me and basically saying stuff like she cant believe i did it, and shell never forgive me etc. It even got to the point she is considering leaving me.

WTF?

 

[iijakii]

That reads like a joke, holy hell!

 

[hunter_le five]

well i got fixed on Friday.. it wasn't all that bad.. i never took any of the pain medicine they gave me and the pain is only mild discomfort. The killer is my wife kicked me out of the house for the weekend.

We had talked about it once before after my consultation appointment and she was not totally on-board and so after some debating i told her that i wouldn't schedule the procedure because I dont want a rift in our marriage. A couple weeks after that she seemed to be cool about it and said she would schedule it so she set the date, and kept saying "i understand the logic, and it makes sense to have it done since we have 3 kids already. I just dont like that i will lose the choice to have more if i want more in the future". She also said things like "I will be an ******* the day of it but i will eventually get over it".

well I had it done and the minute we got home she kicked me out and i spent the weekend at my dads house. she finally started talking to me and basically saying stuff like she cant believe i did it, and shell never forgive me etc. It even got to the point she is considering leaving me.

WTF?

 

[LandoLincoln]

well i got fixed on Friday.. it wasn't all that bad.. i never took any of the pain medicine they gave me and the pain is only mild discomfort. The killer is my wife kicked me out of the house for the weekend.

We had talked about it once before after my consultation appointment and she was not totally on-board and so after some debating i told her that i wouldn't schedule the procedure because I dont want a rift in our marriage. A couple weeks after that she seemed to be cool about it and said she would schedule it so she set the date, and kept saying "i understand the logic, and it makes sense to have it done since we have 3 kids already. I just dont like that i will lose the choice to have more if i want more in the future". She also said things like "I will be an ******* the day of it but i will eventually get over it".

well I had it done and the minute we got home she kicked me out and i spent the weekend at my dads house. she finally started talking to me and basically saying stuff like she cant believe i did it, and shell never forgive me etc. It even got to the point she is considering leaving me.

WTF?

Just tell her "MY BODY, MY CHOICE."

If she argues with that then she's not worth keeping anyway.

 

[Mirilis]

that was her excuse when i asked why she scheduled the appointment then got mad at me for actually doing it.

 

[bob1852]

well i got fixed on Friday.. it wasn't all that bad.. i never took any of the pain medicine they gave me and the pain is only mild discomfort. The killer is my wife kicked me out of the house for the weekend.

We had talked about it once before after my consultation appointment and she was not totally on-board and so after some debating i told her that i wouldn't schedule the procedure because I dont want a rift in our marriage. A couple weeks after that she seemed to be cool about it and said she would schedule it so she set the date, and kept saying "i understand the logic, and it makes sense to have it done since we have 3 kids already. I just dont like that i will lose the choice to have more if i want more in the future". She also said things like "I will be an ******* the day of it but i will eventually get over it".

well I had it done and the minute we got home she kicked me out and i spent the weekend at my dads house. she finally started talking to me and basically saying stuff like she cant believe i did it, and shell never forgive me etc. It even got to the point she is considering leaving me.

WTF?

War on men!!!

 

[Johow]

No regrets!

 

[hunter_le five]

No regrets!

*regerts

 

[Rhetorik]

*regerts

*ragrets

 

[hunter_le five]

 

[Mirilis]

I dont feel bad at all.. i have 3 healthy children that I love (2 boys, 1 girl). That is plenty for me. I always told her that if she wanted one in the future we could always adopt or foster. Then we can choose exactly when we are prepared.

Average Cost to Raise a Child

 

[Psylocide]

Ugh, every time I almost completely forget that I have to call and schedule my appointment, this stupid thread pops up.

 

[blizz81]

I need to work it in a "talk" here at some point.


The last time I tried, I was mid-sentence about two words away from "vasectomy" when she got a call to let her know the dog had terminal lymphoma.