Blissfully Child-Free

[iijakii]

When you were carny-ing did you paint some of your teeth black so it looks like you were missing teeth? If I saw a carny with all their teeth I would think its an undercover cop.

Whoo boy man, I aint done none that. Just talk redneck and yall fit right in, tell you wha.

 

[Psylocide]

Whoo boy man, I aint done none that. Just talk redneck and yall fit right in, tell you wha.

Were you the tweaker that was operating the Starship 3000 with Slayer on full blast?

Oh wait, that's all of them.

 

[Gavin C]

Yeah, just dress in your everyday attire.

You'll fit right in.

Top-hats and waistcoats a plenty then. Fantastic news. One's milliner will be most delighted.

 

[TheCADJockey]

Whoo boy man, I aint done none that. Just talk redneck and yall fit right in, tell you wha.

The last time I went to a carnival, I was visiting as they were closing up shop. You know those globes you throw a ping pong ball in to win a goldfish? Yeah I got to see them dump about a thousand golfish on to the grass and just leave them there to die.

Never again.

 

[iijakii]

The last time I went to a carnival, I was visiting as they were closing up shop. You know those globes you throw a ping pong ball in to win a goldfish? Yeah I got to see them dump about a thousand golfish on to the grass and just leave them there to die.

Never again.

Them's good eats.

 

[Psylocide]

Top-hats and waistcoats a plenty then. Fantastic news. One's milliner will be most delighted.

Why don't you and @hunter_la5 just carpool up here, then we can send wasted selfies to @TheCADJockey .

That sounds like a good time.

 

[finsfan]

Wow. I feel so badly for that kid.

Why? They obviously care enough about it already to take their relationship to the next level and not have a broken home before its even born. Just because people get pregnant by mistake, or whatever proper terminology you want to use, doesn't mean they wont love the kid and provide for it any less than if they had planned it. Not sure why you would think that is automatically the case. Does it happen? I'm sure it does but it certainly doesn't the majority of the time, I can guarantee you that.

 

[TheCADJockey]

Why don't you and @hunter_la5 just carpool up here, then we can send wasted selfies to @TheCADJockey .

That sounds like a good time.

Fawk that. If that group is getting together, I'll start down the 90 now. I'll be in Ohio by 4.

 

[1977Brewer]

Why don't you and @hunter_la5 just carpool up here, then we can send wasted selfies to @TheCADJockey .

That sounds like a good time.

Nice. Thanks for the invite. Love you too, man.

 

[TheCADJockey]

Nice. Thanks for the invite. Love you too, man.

Ya know.. its kind of really heartbreaking when you're tagged in a post, just to find out the person tagging you is just telling someone else they love them

 

[hunter_le five]

I love you all.

Just not your children.

Just kidding. I'm sure they're wonderful little people.

 

[Gavin C]

Why don't you and @hunter_la5 just carpool up here, then we can send wasted selfies to @TheCADJockey .

That sounds like a good time.

I thought there was some form of federal regulation governing the transport of infectious agents across state lines. I refer of course to his infectious wit... chortle, chortle, guffaw.

Certainly not alluding to any related interspecies viral leaps.

 

[1977Brewer]

Ya know.. its kind of really heartbreaking when you're tagged in a post, just to find out the person tagging you is just telling someone else they love them

Well, I thought I was a Super Smash Bro but it looks like Gavin usurped me. Imperialist bastard that he is.

My affections for you run as deep, I assure you.

 

[kombat]

Why?

Because a happy and healthy home life should be centered around a couple's love for each other, not the fact that they share a kid together.

Were they going to get married if she hadn't gotten pregnant?

It's bad enough when a happily married couple gets pregnant unexpectedly. At least they have a strong foundation with which to work through any difficulties. At the end of the day, they share a strong love for each other, and that will help them work through raising a kid they hadn't planned on having.

But if the couple is "meh" about their relationship to begin with, and then you throw an unwanted pregnancy in on top of that, that's a recipe for a hugely dysfunctional family, and a poorly-adjusted child. Maybe you're right, maybe they're the exception to the rule and they'll pull together, realize they were deeply in love all along and that they really wanted kids all along, and they'll be a happy family that stays together for life. I'm just saying statistically, that's not very likely.

They obviously care enough about it already to take their relationship to the next level and not have a broken home before its even born.

Right. They're considering the next step (marriage) because she's pregnant. Not because they can't imagine their lives without each other.

Just because people get pregnant by mistake, or whatever proper terminology you want to use, doesn't mean they wont love the kid and provide for it any less than if they had planned it.

I think statistics would disagree with you. There are an awful lot of single moms out there who didn't intend to get pregnant, and are now having a hard time providing for it without daddy around.

I've heard it said that a child magnifies a couple's relationship. That is, if you are already deeply in love and committed to each other, then a child will just make that family even stronger and happier. But if there are cracks in your relationship, then introducing a kid will magnify all those little annoyances that you've been biting your tongue over. Sleep deprivation will make you irritable and edgy and prone to lashing out. The case you described sounds like it's shaping up to be the latter, but I'm just going off of what you've written here, I know nothing else about the couple, I'm just playing the odds.

Not sure why you would think that is automatically the case.

Statistics, mainly. Couples that stay together for the kids are less happy than couples who were already happy and deliberately had kids.

 

[Gavin C]

Well, I thought I was a Super Smash Bro but it looks like Gavin usurped me. Imperialist bastard that he is.

My affections for you run as deep, I assure you.

I'm more of a sessionable-ist bastard if truth be told. Mild, pale; owing to my celtic ancestry and irritatingly-quaffable enough to make you to get up and find another excuse to take a piss.

I'm no Super Smash bro I fear. I think Michelangelo was taken, so I fecked off home and sulked.

 

[finsfan]

This thread is becoming more and more laughable as it continues, and not because of the can cheese talks. Kombat, you started off with understandable statements but damn if you're ideas on how to raise a child properly are skewed dramatically because of your opinions. The only argument I'm going to leave you with is that a child is and should be raised by the parents love for the child, not the love for each other. Remember all that selfish talk? Why in the hell would the child be better off if the parents loved each other? Married, committed, or separated, the parents will always fail at their job if they aren't raising the kid with the child's best interest in mind, not themselves. I'd challenge you to show me statistics where kids raised by single parents have a worse opportunity for success than parents raised by "loving, fully committed" parents.

But then again, maybe its just an American "statistic" that all parents don't fail if they are single.

 

[kombat]

The only argument I'm going to leave you with is that a child is and should be raised by the parents love for the child, not the love for each other.

With all due respect, this is absurd. You're saying that two strangers who don't particularly like each other, but who both really want a kid, would make a great household? Do you hear yourself right now?

Why in the hell would the child be better off if the parents loved each other?

Are you seriously asking that?

Married, committed, or separated, the parents will always fail at their job if they aren't raising the kid with the child's best interest in mind, not themselves.

Right, of course, but a family built on love has a much better chance if they love each other in addition to the child, rather than just a strong love for the child and a tacit acceptance of the spouse. How the heck is that kid supposed to learn what a healthy relationship looks like if the parents don't like each other?

I'd challenge you to show me statistics where kids raised by single parents have a worse opportunity for success than parents raised by "loving, fully committed" parents.

Oh my God, are you serious? The statistics are overwhelming. 70% of prison inmates come from broken homes. Children of divorce have lower high school graduation rates, higher suicide rates, and so on.

Kids do better when they have two, happy, loving parents. Doesn't even matter that much if they're the same sex or opposite, but it's impossible to deny that a 2-parent household unit is - in general - superior to a single parent household, at least as far as the child's well-being is concerned.

 

[Roadliner]

I was born and raised in WI, and I sure miss it. Especially the cheese. Hooke's 10 yr cheddar is mind blowing. Now and then I can find it here, but for crazy expensive.

I heard they just released a 20 yr cheddar, for $209 a pound. Some friends of mine went in on a quarter pound, I'm hoping I get a chance to try it.

Can't find crap around here in IN. Very cheese deprived. All we have in this state are all sorts of fireworks and religion. 3 floyds is good, but even here zombie dust is impossible to find.

oh come now, that's not ALL that is in Indiana. Best pork Tendeloin Sandwiches anywhere.

On another note, next time I'm visiting Indy, I can probably bring you some cheese.

 

[iijakii]

On another note, next time I'm visiting Indy, I can probably bring you some cheese.

Thank you, I'd love some.

 

[TheCADJockey]

The only argument I'm going to leave you with is that a child is and should be raised by the parents love for the child, not the love for each other.

With all due respect, this is absurd. You're saying that two strangers who don't particularly like each other, but who both really want a kid, would make a great household?

I agree with @finsfan completely regarding that statement, assuming he is not talking about two strangers and is actually referring to whatever the previous mentioned situation was. Two people that had a child unplanned...

But, I didn't join this thread to argue. I joined to spread nonsense since people were talking about me in a thread that was doomed from the beginning.

 

[SnakeRidge]

oh come now, that's not ALL that is in Indiana. Best pork Tendeloin Sandwiches anywhere.

On another note, next time I'm visiting Indy, I can probably bring you some cheese.

Nashville isn't far from Indy. I'll take three pounds of your finest cheese.

 

[TheCADJockey]

Nashville isn't far from Indy. I'll take three pounds of your finest cheese.

We actually do have some good cheese up here too, for those of you who are "better than" easy cheese.

 

[iijakii]

Let's have a cheese-off. I'll bring some Tillamook.

 

[finsfan]

for those of you who are "better than" easy cheese.

Im not sure they should be able to legally call that cheese.

 

[Roadliner]

Thank you, I'd love some.

Cool.. Meet me at the food court in Circle Center at the beginning of October.

 

[hunter_le five]

I like muenster... anyone got a good muenster?

 

[kombat]

I agree with @finsfan completely regarding that statement, assuming he is not talking about two strangers and is actually referring to whatever the previous mentioned situation was. Two people that had a child unplanned...

You seriously don't think that child would have a better chance with two parents who were deeply in love with each other???

I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!

 

[Psylocide]

We actually do have some good cheese up here too, for those of you who are "better than" easy cheese.

Not even slightly aged... pfft.

Do you even cheese bro?

 

[iijakii]

Brie, some type of pepper-jelly, crackers. Tell you this.

 

[SnakeRidge]

Im not sure they should be able to legally call that cheese.

Come on, it says "Fancy Cheese" right on the label. What more do you want?