shroomzofdoom
Well-Known Member
Easy...HWMBO (really IWMBO)
Definitely plan ahead and "run it by her" first a few days ahead of time. Reiterate how long it will take from start to absolute finish (very last piece of equipment cleaned and put away). That way she could plan ahead of time of things she might want to do. Think about it like this.
You would strongly appreciate it if she told you 3 days ahead of time that she planned on having girls night out (or whatever) on Wednesday and will be gone from 4-10. That gives you enough time to make your yeast starter for your brew that day!
This topic is near and dear to my heart. I've thought of giving up homebrewing more then a few times due to this. My wife doesn't like beer. We have 4 kids. Finding a window of 3-4 hours is almost impossible. My problem comes when I go over my estimated time. I say it will only take 3 hours, then 5 hours later, its 2 am, and shes been waiting up for me, and now she's pissed. Also, I thought it was funny that she got upset when I moved my brewing outside. Once I started with propane I obviously wasn't going to do it indoors anymore. She felt like I left her alone during that time... I don't really have an easy answer for you, but I think I need to get better at having more realistic guesses as to how long things take me.
You definitely don't want to take up all grain then. You'll easily add a couple hours to your brew day and your old lady will be pissed.
I'm not a dick about it either but if she acts up, she will be put in her place. Good thing is she rarely acts up.
It's just difficult hearing about all these guys who are so controlled by their old ladies around here. Just the fact that they call them SWMBO is difficult for me to comprehend. Sack up fellas and show them who is the man of the house.
Tell her that with your HomeBrewing she'll not need to buy makeups, pedicures, or fancy haircuts to keep herself pretty.
The beer goggles will take care of that.
My wife is pretty understanding of my hobbies, I simply told here I could stop homebrewing and start drinking beers with my buddies at the strip club instead of hanging around the house homebrewing. Plus when I am mashing or boiling in the backyard I have enough time to pull a few weeds, refill the hummingbird feeder, trim the roses or putter in the garden. I keep myself busy with other little things I also enjoy doing during the down time. being productive around the house definately keeps the wife from pinging at me!
I am not telling anyone to get a divorce. I tried to make mine work. But in the end it is what she wanted and is what she got. And now i have less stress and am a very happy person again.
Our hobbies go great together. My wife, her girlfriends, and I drink homebrew together, then they dress up and bellydance for me, and then... you know how the rest of the story goes... did I mention my wife is bi and likes to explore?
Try the sneaky approack, Derden. Agree with her that your hobby takes a fair amount of time and offer to sit down with her and make up a schedule when you can each do your own thing. List your brewing on one half of the page and her hobbies on the other. Write down the time you take and then ask her how much time she needs for hers. Total them at the bottom, look thoughtfully at the two totals, then ask her if she wants to decrease hers or increase yours to make them equal.
As far as my household goes, we're equal but different. We have traditional male/female roles by choice. I rarely do dishes or laundry, and she doesn't do any of the things that I do. Turns out that I put in far more hours than she does, but that's the nature of our relationship. The time spent brewing isn't even an issue. Neither is the money. We're both adults and we both have our hobbies.
You can hear your wife nag? Mine never does I just hear a waaa wwaaa waaaa noise running around the house sometimes. Never did quite nail down what it was but it sounds very similar to an adult on charlie brown.
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