If you want to calculate it,
@dmtaylor gave an example in post #56. Basically, take your total water and subtract the wort volume that will be left behind in the mash tun (because of absorption and (if applicable) dead space). The result is your pre-boil volume. Divide that pre-boil volume by 3. That gives you the equal amount to run off at each stage.
Your strike water will be equal to: Total Water Minus pre-boil volume, plus 1st equal runoff
Your first batch sparge will be equal to the 2nd equal runoff
Your second batch sparge will be equal to the 3rd equal runoff
I think near the top of this thread you mentioned running off until you reach your pre-boil volume. But you should calculate the total water needed and use that. If you are leaving water/wort in the mash tun beyond grain absorption and any unrecoverabe dead space, you won't get an efficient batch sparge.
If you are getting near 100% conversion efficiency, your most efficient batch sparge strategy for any given total water volume will be equal runoffs, regardless of what your gut tells you.