Lousy Neighbor Thread

[brauhaus]

I have lousy neighbors...

I few months back these two "ladies" moved in next door to us, no big deal, I'm all about gay people having the right to be together, etc. They have a 13 yo and a 16 yo, both girls, and 2 middle sized dogs (keep in mind, we have 2 bedroom 1 and a 1/2 bath townhouse, not small, but certainly gets a "packed" feeling when we have company over)...

So the first week or so they had moved in they had a constant stream of people coming and visiting, which is normal and I didn't mind when I came out from work for 2 weeks and didn't have a parking spot...

For the first 2 weeks they'd blast music, I'd expect that from a 13 and 16 yo, but you'd think mom and other mom would be considerate and tell them to keep it down... but whatever they were new and I'm sure they were just "testing the limits".

Now it's been a few months since they had moved in, I have called twice about the bass thumping being too loud, but once again, here we are... bass thumping in the background to the point where I can practically tell what they are listening to (keep in mind, my daughter is watching Stewart Little right now and I can hear it over our own surround sound).

The manly one is constantly woodworking, constantly. Every weekend she is building something and lord knows what's inside that home of theirs.... Now this isn't a complaint, she obviously likes to be handy and if that floats her boat, whatever. I'd rather hear hammering and saws than thumping bass like it's a night club over there and we've just hit "rave hour".

Anyway, I know I'm supposed to "love thy neighbor" but even after I have told them directly and even called the management here about the music and constant visitors and lack of parking, they still are inconsiderate and somewhat rude.

I could stoop to their level and blast music and steal their parking spots, but something in me still forces me to respect them.

Anyway, they are lousy and I guess it's the thrill of renting a home and all that goes with it.... but my god, some people just amaze me, I'm shocked hat grown adults could be so inconsiderate.

Oh, they also have a car with 1,000 bumper stickers on it and half of them have crap like, "i don't have an attitude, you're just a f**king a**hole!" and other trashy sayings.

/rant

 

[McKBrew]

I've had crappy neighbors and good neighbors. It's a PITA to deal with the bad ones. Had a similar situation where they would blast loud music, etc... On more than one occasion the base Military Police were called to deal with it (and not always by me). In the 3 years I lived next door to them I had at least a couple flat tires. Obviously I could never prove anything, but.....

Hardly know my neighbors now, and haven't had any issues.

I don't know what you can do in your situation honestly. You can complain to the right people and it might get results, then again it might cause more problems.

 

[EdWort]

Call the landlord and complain. There has to be rules in the lease.

Then start calling the cops.

 

[VatorMan]

Sounds like time to wash the car in a speedo time.

 

[Great_Neck_Brewer]

Put a few more bumber stickers on her car such as " Cops Suck " or something to that effect.

Invite Butch over and introduce her to homebrewing, she might like it.

 

[DrunkTrucker]

I have the same problem with my nieghbors. They play thier umpa music all the time. Throw beer bottles in my yard and thier kids torment my dogs by throwing crap in the backyard. I have tried calling the cops but I usually get a message saying that they are experiencing a high volume of calls. I'm moving in a few months and I cant wait. I share your pain Braehaus.

 

[Bedlam]

Sounds like time to wash the car in a speedo time.

Pics! Pics! We want pics!!

 

[brauhaus]

Call the landlord and complain. There has to be rules in the lease.

Then start calling the cops.

The previous tenants were two college girls, they partied hard and had tons of parties at their place all the time... I called the cops b/c one night my wife and I were in bed when I could smell pot and I mean to the point were I could have gotten a contact high had I not called the cops...

After that they smoked inside.

they had shady drug deals going on and there was usually a different car popping in and out at all hours...

having a child and being concerned with my family's safety I was more than happy to call the cops on them...

the final straw was one morning at 2am I was woken from a dead sleep by a loud crash, I looked out the front window and the girl's boyfriend had crashed his car into the concrete steps out front of our townhouse, he had hopped the curb with his pimped Cadillac and wrecked right in front of our houses.... had their not been a curb and step, he would have crashed through my unit...

5 mins later I was in gear (had my fire gear at home with me for training earlier that day) and was assisting in pulling his drunk arse out of the car.

I was never more infuriated in my entire life.

The next day the girls were cleaning house; management gave them 48 hours to vacate the premises... lucky for us, this is a family community and that nonsense is not tolerated.

 

[Thwizzit]

Our neighbors are the crankiest old people I've ever had the displeasure to know. Fact is, after five years we don't even know them. They are basically hermits unless they are yelling out the window at our kids. If the ball or frisbee lands on their grass and the kids go over to get it you can hear them tapping on the window and saying 'Get off the property!" One time our niece, who was about three, toddled onto their grass and she was yelling again.

One time my wife was out in the back yard working in her flower bed and leaned something on the fence that divides the property and the old lady came out, walked over to where my wife was and pushed the object off the fence and said 'I told you four inches from the fence!" Everything like plants and leaves etc. has to be four inches from her fence.

They're nuts and incredibly unpleasant. I think they're probably Nazi war criminals hiding out. They've got that heavy German accent, they're never outside and they never get visitors. They're like the Klopeks from The 'Burbs... Just nasty.

Why is it nasty people live the longest?

 

[k1v1116]

nasty people live the longest cause even cancer doesnt want to live with them.
ive had some unpleasant neighbors too, one nut job came out with a digital camera and started taking pictures of my dad saying he was blowing leaves onto the neighbors property (not his property) and he was going to show them the pics, all of this was BS. anyway this was just the tip of the iceberg but you get the idea.

 

[EdWort]

Interesting tips for when you find your next place to live.

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[Bernie Brewer]

Most of my neighbors keep to themselves, but the ones to the north are Mr and Mrs Kravitz. They know everything about everyone, and they can do everything better than anyone else. If it weren't for then, life would be perfect. As it is, it ain't bad.

Oh, they also have a car with 1,000 bumper stickers on it and half of them have crap like, "i don't have an attitude, you're just a f**king a**hole!" and other trashy sayings.

Just a little politically incorrect observation I've made over the years: you can always tell the political persuasion of an individual by looking at their cars. The more to the left they lean, the more bumper stickers they have on their cars. People on the right rarely will deface their car with a bumper sticker. OK, go ahead and flame me for this little observation........

 

[ohiobrewtus]

That sounds even worse than having bible thumping neighbors that are convinced that you're making crack everytime that you brew.

 

[Schlenkerla]

Just a little politically incorrect observation I've made over the years: you can always tell the political persuasion of an individual by looking at their cars. The more to the left they lean, the more bumper stickers they have on their cars. People on the right rarely will deface their car with a bumper sticker. OK, go ahead and flame me for this little observation........

Hey - I have, "I'd rather be home brewing!" bumper sticker and I don't lean left the slightest bit...

 

[Bernie Brewer]

Hey - I have, "I'd rather be home brewing!" bumper sticker and I don't lean left the slightest bit...

LOL I did say "rarely"!!! I wouldn't put that one on the car, either. I'd be too afraid the cops would pull me over thinking I was looped....

 

[Schlenkerla]

Invite Butch over and introduce her to homebrewing, she might like it.

This might be a good idea. Try to be friends 1st. They might be more considerate if they can put a name and face together.

Make sure you got something light like a blonde or pale ale. Chances are if its not BMC-like they may not think its all too cool. Get'em good buzzed maybe they'll come around.

 

[cellardoor]

Just a little politically incorrect observation I've made over the years: you can always tell the political persuasion of an individual by looking at their cars. The more to the left they lean, the more bumper stickers they have on their cars. People on the right rarely will deface their car with a bumper sticker. OK, go ahead and flame me for this little observation........

I still see plenty of W04 or Bush/Cheney 04 stickers on the back windows of trucks, SUV's and Cadillacs. I cringe every time I see them. It was FOUR years ago. Take that **** off.

 

[brauhaus]

This might be a good idea. Try to be friends 1st. They might be more considerate if they can put a name and face together.

Make sure you got something light like a blonde or pale ale. Chances are if its not BMC-like they may not think its all too cool. Get'em good buzzed maybe they'll come around.

yeah, we've tried to be nice and talk to them, but they are very unapproachable... the manly lesbian is very "rough" looking, she scares me... don't get me wrong, when I see them I'm not a jerk, I always say Hi and either get a muffed hello back or a grunt...

hehe, I said muff.

she always says, "hi" to our daughter and even she gets bashful...

another thing that gets me is, our homes aren't very big and we don't have big yards to entertain people, yet they have "get togethers" all the time and are always having people over... it gets annoying after a while, esp when there is no parking...

 

[brauhaus]

I still see plenty of W04 or Bush/Cheney 04 stickers on the back windows of trucks, SUV's and Cadillacs. I cringe every time I see them. It was FOUR years ago. Take that **** off.

semi-off topic, but when I see those I think, "thanks you jerk."

 

[BierMuncher]

Call the cops during one of these episodes. It's that simple.

 

[Bedlam]

From the other side of the fence, to further disprove your hypothesis, I'm a card-totin' NPR station member liberal and I don't have a single bumper sticker on my car. Never have.

Now, what's it say when you have stickers on your carboy?

 

[VatorMan]

From the other side of the fence, to further disprove your hypothesis, I'm a card-totin' NPR station member liberal and I don't have a single bumper sticker on my car. Never have.

Now, what's it say when you have stickers on your carboy?

For you-I'd wash my car in a thong.:fro:

 

[RodfatherX]

yeah, we've tried to be nice and talk to them, but they are very unapproachable... the manly lesbian is very "rough" looking, she scares me... don't get me wrong, when I see them I'm not a jerk, I always say Hi and either get a muffed hello back or a grunt...

hehe, I said muff.

she always says, "hi" to our daughter and even she gets bashful...

another thing that gets me is, our homes aren't very big and we don't have big yards to entertain people, yet they have "get togethers" all the time and are always having people over... it gets annoying after a while, esp when there is no parking...

2 things I've learned about lesbians from having to work with them and what not. They are always nicer to other women (even to the point of being outwardly rude to the men) and the other thing .....lesbians love to get together and hang out in big groups.

 

[Bedlam]

Awwww....aren't you sweet!

The last guy to bare his ass to me was the guy who kind of installed my dryer last Thursday. But there was no suds, no frolicking in the water hose...

Your offer sounds better!



...if only it were my car you were offering to wash...

 

[WeHeavy]

Been there done that.

Call the cops, call the cops, call the cops..

They'll get the message and move out.

 

[kornkob]

Yeah-- you could go right for the 'call the cops' route or 'complain to the landlord' routine but you're setting yourself up for the same kind of treatment in return.

Having a little informal kind of hang out session can be a good start. I've found I can handle these kinds of things usually in a fairly casual, nonthreatening way.

"Damn-- teenagers, eh? Gotta be rough. So when do kids start loving music so much that they start playing it so loud?"

Besides, giving a less confrontational method a shot actually makes your case stronger if you have to call the landlord or the police in. It certainly helps being able to honestly say "I tried to approach the problem personally and resolve it without all this formal noise and I hate to waste your time with such minor stuff but...".

Personally I find that lesbians aren't really any different than anyone else. I've gotten treated like some sort of evil thing by lesbians and I've also been treated that way by right wing, clean cut males who think that people who don't look like them are by definition 'bad people'.

In my experience people aren't all that different than one another in anything but the details.

 

[EdWort]

I KonKur with Dr. KornKob again, but with one caveat. Your neighbors might have a massive chip on their shoulder about men and truly despise them.

I would not have this conversation without a witness and the best one would be your wife in case it goes south. You don't need a He Said She Said one straight male against two gay females. You will lose every time.

 

[kornkob]

And I'll agree with Ed here with one caveat: I should have said that doing it alone was a bad idea (regardless of sexual orientation of the neighbors) but be careful to not make it too formal lest it feel like an interrogation.

People are sometimes irrational. It's important to make sure you are not putting yourself at risk.

 

[EdWort]

A good start would be to crack open a bottle of Apfelwein with them.

 

[kornkob]

I concur.

And some steak.

mmmm--- steak.