i've made several beers with fruit/additions. i can give you my method, but as you've read around...there's lots of opinions, and no guarentee its' the best. i can tell you, they're always a success and everyone loves them.
i typically don't add my secondary "additions" at flameout, as they'll be susceptible to your entire fermentation. You'll end up losing all your flavour. i always wait until primary fermentation is done, then i'll rack the beer onto my fruit additions in a new carboy and let it sit for a week or two.
I tend to use whole/fresh fruit, that i've cubed up small enough to fit into carboy, then freeze. This breaks the cell walls of the fruit, and allows more juice/fruit to get into your beer. Ive been very successful on mulitple occasions with Blueberries, Raspberries, jalepeno's, strawberries, rhubarb. I also plan on doing the exact same thing with nectarines and tart cherries with 2 sour beers i have on the go.
hope this helps you out!