what ??? I don't know their bills or needs but if somebody makes 6 figures and cant budget in entertainment or hobbies is severely mismanaging their money. (sorry OP) . Im sorry, my wife and I together luckily make mid- 5 figures and we manage to have fun . we go out to eat once in a while , we buys things, new clothing . GOOD FOOD and alcohol .She wont buy anything unless she absolutely "loves it" . I can live pretty simply. We discuss buying large purchases for rationality and practicality. She buys my brewing things if I put them in the Amazon cart . Life is too darn short to live like you cant have things. You go bust your butt 8-12 hrs a day 5-7 days a week , have something to show for it. LIVE. Whatever you're doing with 6 figures that the man cant have some brewing equipment ... cut down on some stuff you really "don't need" ,there is always something to cut out of the budget. Like ,just as an example, how many pairs of shoes does she have and how many of those that she actually wears .
I apologize. I once made high 5 figures for years by myself. My ex-wife mismanaged our money for years before I found out and in the mean time I couldnt have things, but she snuck buying a lot of frivolous things without my knowing plus credit debt.
Its time for a sit-down for a serious marital financial discussion... I guarantee it'll open your eyes.