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No, it means she has a mortgage and I am paying nearly half of it. But yes, the house is hers.
Well, then it's time to GTFO unless you want to stay screwed.
Or does she hide that too?
No, it means she has a mortgage and I am paying nearly half of it. But yes, the house is hers.
I have to ask... you came here looking for advice, and not one person said "do the hiding her crap thing" and thats what you are going to stick with?
kingbriani said:i'm afraid i can't suggest the proper course of action to this situation until a picture has been submitted of the offender.
So you guys really suggest I just up and leave her?
mcarb said:So you guys really suggest I just up and leave her? Yeah that's a solution.
mcarb said:So you guys really suggest I just up and leave her? Yeah that's a solution.
So you guys really suggest I just up and leave her? Yeah that's a solution.
You started this whole thing with "So I am about to lose it here and really don't know what to do."
If you have told her repeatedly and she has not changed in the slightest, I'm not sure why you think she will change in the future. Unless you really haven't expressed how big of a deal it is (and I don't mean implied it, or hinted at it, i mean directly stated its a big deal) then I don't see what you're going to do differently to change her mind. She's an adult, you can't force her to do anything. For the sake of complete clarity, what i mean when I say "express how big of a deal it is" i mean you sit down with her and say "dear, this is literally driving me crazy and if it doesn't stop, I don't know if this relationship is going to keep working." If that doesn't change her behavior, nothing will, and then you either decide to deal with it or you don't.
In summary, if the situation is about to cause you to lose it, and you've already tried to motivate her to change her behavior by telling her how important it is to you, and you cannot change her behavior because she's an adult, then it seems like your choices are:
1) lose it
or
2) stop being in the situation that's causing you to lose it.
It seems you don't want 1, which is why people are suggesting 2. What are your other options?
You started this whole thing with "So I am about to lose it here and really don't know what to do."
If you have told her repeatedly and she has not changed in the slightest, I'm not sure why you think she will change in the future. Unless you really haven't expressed how big of a deal it is (and I don't mean implied it, or hinted at it, i mean directly stated its a big deal) then I don't see what you're going to do differently to change her mind. She's an adult, you can't force her to do anything. For the sake of complete clarity, what i mean when I say "express how big of a deal it is" i mean you sit down with her and say "dear, this is literally driving me crazy and if it doesn't stop, I don't know if this relationship is going to keep working." If that doesn't change her behavior, nothing will, and then you either decide to deal with it or you don't.
In summary, if the situation is about to cause you to lose it, and you've already tried to motivate her to change her behavior by telling her how important it is to you, and you cannot change her behavior because she's an adult, then it seems like your choices are:
1) lose it
or
2) stop being in the situation that's causing you to lose it.
It seems you don't want 1, which is why people are suggesting 2. What are your other options?
...For the record, I sent her an email from work saying that we need to discuss this issue because it truly is driving me crazy. I then told her where she can find her stuff.
Life was so much easier for my grandfather, when a woman knew her place and stayed there.
Sure hope you're kidding.
PW. SHMBO and not even married.
As I read through this thread, it occurred to me that you are a lot like a guy I work with. He is constantly coming to me looking for things because he easily gives up when it comes to finding something. I think when he looks for an object, he doesn't have a mental picture of what he is looking for. The Saran Wrap was in the OTHER drawer? How hard did you really look for it before you just gave up looking?
You've already stated that the place is tiny. How about you put a little effort into getting the lay of the land, instead of whining on the Internet about it. You sound lazy. If this is the case you are probably not going to move out, but will likely do things to irritate her until she THROWS you out. This is probably going to be coming soon, since she sounds to be a capable woman who can fend for herself. Maybe tonight, when she wants to read her book. The good news though is that there is only the one nightstand in the motel room you'll be staying in, and everything will be very easy to find.
gilaminumbeer said:too hard to say. I think you are right, mostly, but dunno this girl from a glory hole.
My wife, however, is pathetically lazy. The saran wrap got a new home cause she was too goddamned lazy to walk her fat ass over to that other spot and the spot it lives at now was conveinient to her location when she needed to drop the fecking saran wrap ...
But i am not angry.
(Internet hug over) now go brew some damn beer!
I read through this and, to me, it sounds like it's time for you to move out.
The kind of petty, spiteful things you two are resorting to should only be practiced by married people with kids.
Obviously BottleBomber has no SWMBO or a SHMBO! My wife likes to more things around. Just when I get used to the new spot, she does it again. I lock up my beer stuff.
.... which is why it's so much smarter (IMO) to move in with your committed partner before getting married. Not speaking ill of marriage at all, but sure seems foolish to make a lifetime commitment to someone before you know if you really work together.
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