Boerderij_Kabouter
Well-Known Member
In any cohabitation I have been involved with "putting things away" != "hiding my stuff". If you leave your "expensive" and "important" things out for days on end, that is on you. Maybe you need a big bin or something where the random crap you leave lying around can get dumped. Objectively reading your story it seems like you are much more out of line than she is.
Sorry.
There is a major difference between what she is doing and what your retaliation is. She is putting your items, that have been left out, away. Cleaning is not a strange or foreign action. You are intentionally removing her items from a put away place and hiding them where she would not look for them. The difference is black and white. If you want things to end, just be a man about it and talk to her. Your hiding game is childish and unproductive.
I apologize if I come off harsh, and I understand that perhaps you didn't explain your situation fully through prose, but that is how I see the situation.
O/T - I also did not live with my wife until we were married. We dated for 8 years though, so there weren't many habitual surprises.
Sorry.
There is a major difference between what she is doing and what your retaliation is. She is putting your items, that have been left out, away. Cleaning is not a strange or foreign action. You are intentionally removing her items from a put away place and hiding them where she would not look for them. The difference is black and white. If you want things to end, just be a man about it and talk to her. Your hiding game is childish and unproductive.
I apologize if I come off harsh, and I understand that perhaps you didn't explain your situation fully through prose, but that is how I see the situation.
O/T - I also did not live with my wife until we were married. We dated for 8 years though, so there weren't many habitual surprises.