I think there's a lot of things that can really cause a person to get stressed on a brewday, and I would be out of my mind to judge them for it. The biggest one would be injury. If you burn or cut yourself, that's a very easy way to ruin the brewday. You can try to laugh it off or stay calm, but if it's at the beginning of your session and you have to spend the rest of the day moving things around with a damaged appendage? That's rough. Another one would have to be money. Not everyone can afford to brew every weekend or shrug off a bad batch. I also think it is understandable for people to want to perfect their beer and improve. The path to perfection can often be stressful. You have to remember that not everybody enters this hobby with the same mindset or goals. Some people are after the perfect brewing experience and some people are after the perfect beer. Not everyone is blessed enough to enjoy both, and not everyone is lucky or skilled enough to have a choice.
I really enjoy brewing, and it is very cathartic. I've always enjoyed brewing more than the drinking, but I've always hated the cleaning
The whole experience is abundant with memorable stories and riddled with sensory milestones. There's the dry puff of flour that gets in your nose and on your tongue when you dough-in. That sweet smell of mash when you stir. Tasting the sweet malty nectar as you begin running it off. Watching the kettle boil and remembering how it looks like the wake off the back of a boat. Opening a bag of hops and smelling that funky, earthy, spicy, piney, or citrusy wonderfulness. Tossing the hops in and watching them disappear under the folds of boiling wort and hot break and foaming up a layer of green. Hearing that loud propane
POP at knockout.
Sometimes it's the little things like opening a mash tun in the dead of winter and watching the steam shoot out like a volcano. Seeing the blue flames of your propane burner in the early morning, listening to the world wake up while everyone is still asleep. Feeling the side of the kettle to see how warm it is, even though you have a built-in thermometer, just because.
What I've learned along the way is that you have to do what you can to make things easier during your brewday. The easier things are, the more you will enjoy the experience. If you get thrown a curve-ball or two it's much easier to handle than an avalanche of problems. You'll learn what steps you need to take to make things go smoother, what you should buy or make to improve the flow of the day, and things will start to get better. There will always be problems, but you do your best to make less of them. Sometimes it means changing your setup, whether that is going more advanced or getting back to the basics.