Why do all SWMBOs hate brewing and what to do about it?

[matt_m]

I know this is just joking, and I'm sorry to be a wet blanket, but ... let's try to lay off the stereotypes, as we try to make this forum a comfortable place for women who brew.

Have you seen the way they talk about us at the vintage market?

And by the way I’m dead serious.

 

[FromZwolle]

I do none of it in the kitchen and she's OK with it. I also get up crazy early and do it before she awakes, so there's that. You guys don't know me, but I have a LOT of other hobbies/interests that are similarly messy, so brewing is just a small part of the big messy picture haha.

I will say this: I get her $$ jewelry on holidays/birthdays. I don't know exactly how her brain works, but for some reason that keeps everything OK.

my wife only complains when i make a washed rind or blue ripened cheese. that's a smell only the cheese fiend can appreciate.

aside from that, no one likes someone else's mess. if i clean up my mess, no one seems to mind a few hours of cluttered 'maker-space' on a saturday.

 

[Dland]

Never did have my gal complain 'cause I was brewing, ..so I guess I should be appreciative there.

Brewing outside helps, I think.

 

[aceluby]

Our kitchen has never been cleaner since I started brewing. I also teach my wife about all the things I learn and she at least seems genuinely interested in what I pick up. She also loves IPAs, so as long as I keep some on tap she’s tolerant of my brewing adventures

 

[K_tile]

No complaints here. Just kegged 40 gallons (Marzen, Munich Dunkel, Schwarzbier and a Dortmunder) for our Octoberfest party. Wife is the one pushing me to open a brewery.

 

[Beekeeper]

Only problem in this house is that it is difficult for wife to make it up/down the basement stairs to the keezer, so I often hear "my growler's empty," so I may make an extra trip to fill it with a style she might enjoy.

 

[easttex]

The only problem my wife has with me brewing is that it forces her to watch the kid. She brews too so she understands the "why" and doesn't question that. She does wonder why I brew all grain when her extract kits are just as tasty.

 

[pvtpublic]

Concerning the SWMBO debate, my wife would get a kick out of that title! She would probably call me HWMO, he-who-must-obey. But, I have that kind of relationship with my wife where we can make those jokes and laugh together.

I do none of it in the kitchen and she's OK with it. I also get up crazy early and do it before she awakes, so there's that. You guys don't know me, but I have a LOT of other hobbies/interests that are similarly messy, so brewing is just a small part of the big messy picture haha.

I will say this: I get her $$ jewelry on holidays/birthdays. I don't know exactly how her brain works, but for some reason that keeps everything OK.

This sounds eerily familiar....did I somehow post this under your name?

 

[seatazzz]

Oh I just raced through all of the above posts so I could get to the bottom, as I guess I am 'technically' the SWMBO. But I am also the brewer in the family; husband has NO problem with my brewing whatsoever. Typically every Friday he asks if I'm brewing that weekend, and I haven't heard the dreaded "again????" in a few years. The medals and ribbons on my wall attest to that. Also the fact that I don't buy commercial beer, unless it's something new we might want to try brewing at some point. He has his own hobbies, mainly bowling and golf; his project this weekend is turning part of our office into a storage space/showcase for his bowling balls via some cheap cubbies from IKEA. And he will brag to anyone who will listen about his wife who makes some damned good beer (mostly). He's also pushed me into buying new equipment, when it's needed; he's pushing me now to get a glycol chiller, but I'm waiting to find the best deal. We have our issues, as a lot of married couples do; but when it comes to brewing, he is my enabler, first tester, and best drinking buddy.

 

[balrog]

My significant other wanted me to get a hobby.
She rues the day.
She does not like beer or the aromas associated with it's creation (dunno how anyone cannot like the aroma of the mash, but there you are).
I brew in the garage and use the kitchen very little, mostly when she's out for the rare times I bottle, or the short periods I'm cleaning.

 

[matt_m]

She does not like beer or the aromas associated with it's creation (dunno how anyone cannot like the aroma of the mash, but there you are).

Ha, we just visited Sierra Nevada in NC and the first thing she said when we got out of the car was "it stinks here." But she also enjoyed the tour, food, and some non-beer drink the bartender recommended.

 

[madscientist451]

After almost 20 years of marriage, we went our separate ways....getting a divorce was costly, being able to brew whenever I want is priceless....

My new lady friend doesn't complain about any of my quirky hobbies, and I don't complain about anything annoying she does, we are thankful to be together.

 

[bracconiere]

well here's a tip coming from a single guy, i learned from a video game? (lol)