when do you tell her?

[ClutchDude]

For the most part, it's not a big deal.

I was lucky though, since my SWMBO is a nerd in her own respect and she can dig how much science goes into brewing. She tunes me out when I start talking about equipment, though.

And just remember, she prolly has some hobby or trait she's wondering "when" to tell you about it. All in good time.

And definitely don't let her know that all of this glass and equipment is actually a front for your meth lab.

 

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And definitely don't let her know that all of this glass and equipment is actually a front for your meth lab.

now as far as that goes, my inclination was similar to some of the earlier responses; let her taste the results first

 

[DUCCCC]

My first question would be how she feels about alcohol in general. If she's a devout LDS, or Baptist, you're probably not going to get too positive a reaction to telling her you make alcohol.

First reaction I get from more than a few folks down her in NC, when I tell them I make beer, is something to the effect that they new a guy who had a still once too! I don't think many teetotalers are going to view homebrewing any differently than making hooch.

Now if she's enjoys the occasional adult beverage, but doesn't care for beer there's always Apfelwein. If she can appreciate a good beer then have her over for a brewing session. Once she sees the care and work that goes in to making a good beer at home I imagine she'd be more than understanding.

 

[The Soft Underbelly]

It's not like you are telling her that you want to wear her panties and run around the house with a broom up your bum and a rose between your teeth.

"Honey, I'd like to wear your panties and brew beer with a broom up my bum and a rose between my teeth

 

[hefeweizen]

So does she drink beer? Does she appreciate a good beer or is she a BMC drinker?

When I first met my SWMBO, she was drinking better beer than me. I credit her with turning me on to good beer. Here we are years later and she bought me a home brew kit for my birthday.

Her "I'm not pregnant anymore and can drink beer" Oatmeal Stout will be ready to drink this weekend. Now if the kid would just come out already!

-Ron

 

[Donasay]

I think she wont notice after you tell her about your raging coke habit

Run around your house like a mad man then take some pre package priming sugar and throw it at her real hard then scream "I like cocaine!" After that explain that it is priming sugar, and you brew beer, she will be much less worried.

 

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Run around your house like a mad man then take some pre package priming sugar and throw it at her real hard then scream "I like cocaine!" After that explain that it is priming sugar, and you brew beer, she will be much less worried.

I guess I am the only one who ever had this thought.:cross:

 

[BierMuncher]

Brew her a batch of SWMBO Slayer Belgian Blonde. She'll be an immediate fan. Druck as a skuck...but a fan nonetheless.

 

[paranode]

If she has a problem with it, she's probably not the one for you. If she thinks it's cool and wants to learn, there may be something there.

Yeah I would be casual about it like any other thing you do in your spare time. If she has a problem with it, it's probably not going to just go away. She'll just try to "change you" which rarely works out so well.

 

[moger777]

Usually the first thing I tell people when I meet them is that I'm a brewer. I'm very proud of it and wanna let as much people know as possible. People are always asking me when my next beer will be ready.

 

[raceskier]

Most women I've mentioned the "hobby" to were interested and suprised. The few exceptions, "Ewww beer?", tended to be rather closed minded on many subjects. If it's gonna work, it's gonna work, the brewing's not going to make a difference unless you let it.

“Never try to teach a pig to sing; it wastes your time and it annoys the pig.”

Robert Heinlein

 

[RadicalEd]

I'm short in the girlfriend department but heavy in the "female friend" area. So I've brought it up with a number of girls, and really the response I've gotten is highly dependent upon the individual. One, dislikes beer and thinks that, in general, alcohol "makes you stupid". I've gradually managed to convince her that there is a beer for everyone, and she simply hasn't tried it yet.

Another was really cool with it. One of those:
me: BTW, do you drink? I make my own beer and cider.
her: Oh you do, really?
me: Yeah! And it's some pretty good stuff. You wanna try some?
her: sure.
later...
her: can I have some more

. You win some you lose some.

 

[PeteOz77]

I too am blessed with a SWMBO that supports my habit. She likes it a lot better than my last "Hobby" (read addiction) Racing Nitro Powered Remote Control Cars, Buggies and Trucks. I am home a lot more, I spend less money, I don't come home grumpy, dirty and exhausted, and she sees how much I enjoy the fruits of my labours.

She bought my fist starter kit for me for Xmas, and then sort of panicked when the $120Kit RAPIDLY turned into 7 fermenters, 300 bottles, 12 kegs, 3 extra fridges, one less bathroom and now an outdoor brewing kitchen.

If I were dating a new woman and had this "hobby" I think I would introduce her to it by taking her out on a date to a Brew Pub and start talking about different styles of beers, the history of brewing, maybe compare fine beers of the world to fine wines of the world etc. Hopefully she would at least try a few types and like them, but if not at least she will understand your interest in fine brews. Then when you later tell her that you brew your own beer due to your interest in the craft and the fine beers of the world, she will understand.... and maybe even HELP on brewday!

 

[Willy Boner]

Tell her during sex. Just make sure she's having a really good time first.

Yeah, if she doesn't like homebrewing, is sex out of the question? I don't think so.

 

[Willy Boner]

Yeah I would be casual about it like any other thing you do in your spare time. If she has a problem with it, it's probably not going to just go away. She'll just try to "change you" which rarely works out so well.

That's the whole trouble, with women,(from Venus) they think they can change you. Men (from Mars) think the woman wil never change. And .... they always do!

 

[Moonshae]

My SWMBO doesn't like beer. At all. Most brews I do she'll not even taste. But she tolerates my hobby, knowing I could be spending more money golfing or in a strip club drinking BMC by the pitcher, etc, or even buying commercial brews by the case.

Would it be cooler if she drank it too? Sure! But the fact that she doesn't means there's twice as much homebrew for me.

Don't let her lack of interest in beer be a deterrent...if she isn't supportive of your brewing, though...well, that's a different story altogether.