I've been patiently waiting for my pumpkin ale to shape out as well. Its been in the bottle for about 5 or 6 weeks and is still taking some time to carbonate fully and really develop a balanced flavor. I think its all of the pumpkin and spices that take a WHILE to mellow out! I also brewed this batch with straight hose water, and think it had an ill-effect to the taste, but I'm still crossing my fingers that by Thanksgiving it will be much better. Primary was about 3 weeks, secondary for 2. How long do most people find its best to bottle condition pumpkin ales? Around 2 months? That's why I didn't even want to keg it, I knew it would take a while to mellow, and also didn't want it to gunk up my keg/lines.