Long vent thread (disclaimer: women problems)

[CreamyGoodness]

The relationship is over. If your not sure if its over go and ask the ex if he is banging her. RUN! When I say run that doesn't mean you have to move from your place. Get her crap out of your place and put it on the ex's front yard. Then become completely unavailable to her. NO communication, do not call her, do not answer her calls, do not text her, do not Facebook, no smoke signals, no pigeons with little notes strapped to its leg... Nothing! Then get to know yourself. Brew beer, hang with your bros, listen to music, burp then fart, go hunting then fishing, get front row seats to a drag race, and go to as many sporting events as possible. The point being is that you have no idea who you are, and that is your ultimate problem. You sound like a good dude and I hope the best for you. I will have a pint on your behalf. Oh and if possible try and get the ring back. I am sure that was not cheap.

Whether or not she is banging him is irrelevant to all this. If she were spending time there in a chastity belt which only the OP had a key to, the fact remains that the relationship is rotting out from the inside.

 

[slomo]

I totall agree even if there is nothing physical going on she should still not be there. The banging comment was for dramatic effect for the OP, as most people would probably realize that the relationship is over.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

I just dont want the OP to get too hung up on whether or not there is banging. If there is banging its an "oh yeah, and she was BANGING him too!"...

 

[slomo]

I just dont want the OP to get too hung up on whether or not there is banging. If there is banging its an "oh yeah, and she was BANGING him too!"...

I totally agree just the fact that the OP has requested her to not speak to the Ex, and then she comes back with, "I am going over to his place to watch dogs". Is a pretty big sign that it is not working out.

 

[Homercidal]

Maybe it's not her EX she's banging!

 

[the_bird]

I'm pretty sure that the old song "Walkin' the Dog" is a metaphor for something else... "watchin' the dog" strikes me as the same.

Does her ex- happen to refer to his penis as "Fido"?

 

[the_bird]

I just realized something. Are you engaged to Walter, from Big Lebowski?

 

[Hang Glider]

amazon, walmart...

questions to ask yourself - if you make it through with affirmative on every question, make it work. If you have one negative - move on.
Psychologist with hundreds of cases, hundreds of follow-ups to see who was truly happy with the decisions they made...

 

[gratus fermentatio]

I'll bet cash money she's banging the ex. If she isn't yet, it's only a matter of time till she does; or somebody else. Either way, she's nuts. One of my ex girlfriends used to cry for no reason, when asked why she was crying, she replied (almost every time) "I don't know." She's nuts, she's damaged goods, if she hasn't pulled herself up out of the pit of self pity yet, she ain't gonna & odds are good she'll get meds that'll just make her MORE NUTS. It's a hard thing to say, but do yourself a favour & DUMP THE BITCH. Change the locks immediately; maybe install security cams.
Then go find a better woman.
Regards, GF.

 

[kenstogie]

Run, run fast and run far and when you're done running, run some more then hop on a train, then a plane, then start running again, repeat from beginning.

i just think it is worth repeating....

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Update?

 

[rifraf]

She isn't "just being". Even if that's her intent, and he isn't there, and nothing is going on. Ask yourself how comfortable, grounded, and in a state of "just being" you could feel while in the home of an ex-serious girlfriend.

 

[the_bird]

Best-case, she's lying naked on his bed, covered in his dirty laundry. Worst-case, he's there, too.

 

[pigsaarz]

You can give a guy like that advice till the cows come home,it isn't advice he's after it's sympathy.he is still going to do what he wants to do. I left home when I was 17 and found out pretty quick it's a cruel world out there and if you don't toughen up quick smart people will wipe their feet all over you. Make sure your the hard bastard and have the shiniest shoes.