OK, here is what you want to do....
I am going to try and answer the other side questions as well, but here goes.
1) Under the YEAST/FERMENTATION subforum, there is are multiple threads that pertain to making starters. Check that out for a VERY in depth look at the process.
2) Mr. Malty confuses the $h!t out of me, so I choose the yeast calculator on Brewers Friend. It is just my preference.
3) According to BF, you can do this is 3 steps to build 198 billion cells for a 5.5 gallon batch of 1.050 wort.
Assuming 3% viability in a smack pack of 100 billion cells works out to 3 billion cells to start with.
Step #1: Make a 2L starter of gravity 1.036 by combining 7.2 oz (205.4 grams) of DME and enough water to bring the volume up to 2L.
(A little yeast nutrient and FermCap never hurts either)
You mentioned that you have no problems making a 3L starter, so I assume that you have a 5L flask (or empty growler). If not, then be very careful that when you shake/agitate the starter that it does not erupt all over the place (ask me how I know this....???) This is where the FermCap helps tremendously.
According to BF this should result in growth to 21 billion cells
Swirl/shake/agitate that sucker for 24 hours or so and then stick it in the fridge to cause it to flocculate and settle out.
Remove the starter from the fridge and allow it to warm up (great temp differences cause the yeast to be "shocked" and hurt them)
Think of jumping into really hot water after being in really cold water!!!
Decant (slowly pour the clearish liquid) off from the settled yeast leaving as much of the settled yeast at the bottom with enough liquid to get them back into suspension.
Step #2: Make a 1.5L starter (5.4oz / 154.1 grams) of DME and add the step #1 to this vessel. (REMEMBER THE TEMP DIFFERENCE ADVICE)
Repeat the italicized blue directions from above.
This should build it up to 89 billion cells
Step #3: Make another 1.5L starter (5.4oz / 154.1 grams) of DME
Repeat the steps and this should result in a cell count of 216 billion cells.
When it comes time to pitch it in the beer for real, remember the temperature difference advice.
Decant off enough clear liquid to leave enough to get the yeast in suspension (I personally say screw it at this point and just agitate it all up and dump it in)
Make sense???
