IBUs really aren't helpful in determining how balanced or bitter the beer will be- until you look at the OG.
The important part of the recipe is the IBU/SG ratio. For example, a beer with an OG of 1.053 and IBUs of 30 will not be bitter (ratio is .568) so will be balanced. But a 1.053 beer with IBUs of 56 will have a ratio of 1.079- THAT will be firmly bitter. And a 1.053 beer with 14 IBUs would have a ratio of .270 which means very little bittering.
Or in another way, let's say ALL these beers have 30 IBUs: A Vienna lager, an APA, a barley wine, and an oatmeal stout.
Since the lager and oatmeal stout aren't "hoppy" or bitter, you can assume the OG is higher (lower IBU/SG ratio) while the APA probably has a lower OG. The barley wine, with a very high OG would be terribly sweet at 30 IBUs and cloyingly so (undrinkable)- while the APA would have a nice firm bitterness to it.
That's really how you balance the beer. It's more about the IBU/SG ratio than the actual amount.