Like Revvy said, while your wort is cooling down in your fermentation area (what's the ambient temperature there, by the way?) the yeast are doing things like consuming oxygen, reproducing, and creating (hopefully) strong sterols -- which basically act like trash bags for compounds produced during the fermentation cycle. They don't really begin to create alcohol until after the lag and growth phases are over. By that time your wort should be cooled to match the room's ambient temperature.
I'm assuming your method for aeration is shaking the bajesus out of the carboy/whatever vessel you use. Warmer liquids won't allow as much air to dissolve as easily when aerating your wort prior to pitching the yeast. Granted, it's probably a negligible difference in solubility between 70 degrees and 90 degrees -- but oxygen is very important in the beginning of your fermentation. The point I'm getting at is that the uptake of the proper amount of oxygen (along with the right nutrients/minerals) is important for the yeast to be able to form a strong army for their upcoming battle. I like the way someone here put it, once: would you rather have 10,000 grandmas fighting on your side or 1,000 highly trained asssassins?
Try to think about your yeast as human beings (I promise it's not as crazy as it sounds). What kinds of things would put you in stress mode? Little oxygen to work. Things being too hot. A dirty environment. No beer in your glass. Anyway, good luck with everything and I know you'll get everything worked out -- just takes some time!