bottlebomber
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A little about myself - I am a proud father of 3 handsome boys. They are not my wifes biological children, they are from my previous marriage. My ex-wife went super crackhead in '09 and so I had her replaced. She hasn't seen the boys in over a year, and has had several drug and domestic violence arrests since then.
In our ongoing court dates, it had come out that she was pregnant. Doesn't know who the father is. Other things that have come out - she is literally living in a hay barn, in a room that's been boxed off, and she has had 2 drug arrests during her pregnancy. In another instance she was hospitalized, and left the hospital Against Medical Advice. Because of this, my wife and I started talking months ago about the possibility that this child would come up for adoption. We decided that if he/she was healthy that we were willing to do this. Three weeks ago she had the child, a girl, and indeed it was taken from her in the hospital as she had tested positive for drugs. My ex-wife called me in tears in fact asking if there was anyway I could find it in my heart to take her child.
So the last three weeks my wife and I have been doing research, moving things around in our home, we bought some things, we did the Lifescan background check, had a home inspection, and started preparing our boys for the change. I've also spent hours on the phone with CPS workers. We were supposed to have her this week.
This morning I got a text message from my ex - "They are giving her back! I'm riding the bus down to go pick her up!". WTH??! Called the placement worker. Sure enough, the day before a decision was made that they were going to close the CPS case and return the infant.
We are pissed. My ex has a well documented history of substance abuse. Even she was suprised. Before I got custody of my boys she exposed them to abuse and neglect. She used drugs during her pregnancy. And she lives in a fackin' barn. Who's call was this? Who do they answer to? Is there some kind of a system of accountability for these people, or do they operate totally unchecked? I had to leave work early today, I was so agitated I was starting to think crazy thoughts. I had planned on drinking several pints of beer tonight, but now I'm just lost in thought so this is not technically a drunken post. Somebodies going to have to pay for this. I really hope it isn't an innocent child.
In our ongoing court dates, it had come out that she was pregnant. Doesn't know who the father is. Other things that have come out - she is literally living in a hay barn, in a room that's been boxed off, and she has had 2 drug arrests during her pregnancy. In another instance she was hospitalized, and left the hospital Against Medical Advice. Because of this, my wife and I started talking months ago about the possibility that this child would come up for adoption. We decided that if he/she was healthy that we were willing to do this. Three weeks ago she had the child, a girl, and indeed it was taken from her in the hospital as she had tested positive for drugs. My ex-wife called me in tears in fact asking if there was anyway I could find it in my heart to take her child.
So the last three weeks my wife and I have been doing research, moving things around in our home, we bought some things, we did the Lifescan background check, had a home inspection, and started preparing our boys for the change. I've also spent hours on the phone with CPS workers. We were supposed to have her this week.
This morning I got a text message from my ex - "They are giving her back! I'm riding the bus down to go pick her up!". WTH??! Called the placement worker. Sure enough, the day before a decision was made that they were going to close the CPS case and return the infant.
We are pissed. My ex has a well documented history of substance abuse. Even she was suprised. Before I got custody of my boys she exposed them to abuse and neglect. She used drugs during her pregnancy. And she lives in a fackin' barn. Who's call was this? Who do they answer to? Is there some kind of a system of accountability for these people, or do they operate totally unchecked? I had to leave work early today, I was so agitated I was starting to think crazy thoughts. I had planned on drinking several pints of beer tonight, but now I'm just lost in thought so this is not technically a drunken post. Somebodies going to have to pay for this. I really hope it isn't an innocent child.