There was gay bashing in here? I didn't see it. I certainly didn't do it. It'd be interesting to read why anyone would think otherwise.
I don't know, I didn't see the posts, so can't comment on that directly.
But I will comment that it is too common here, in my opinion, to use the word 'gay' as a pejorative, as in "that was gay" to demean the other person. Its not gay-bashing in the sense that its not saying homosexuality is wrong and its not an obviously inflammatory word, like the N word for people of color or the F word for gay men.
But, if I were gay, and I was with people who said things like "you're so gay" or
"that's so gay" to ridicule the other person, I probably wouldn't hang out with those people anymore.
Just my two cents.