Well, we don't discuss these things typically in an open forum. However, I will tell you that there are "points" given against certain actions, and a number of them will lead to permanent banning. Lesser may mean a temporary ban, or other censure.
If your post was deleted, it was because it was argumentative, a response to an off topic post, not applicable to the topic or germaine to the discussion, or may have included a namecalling phrase. If it was snarky, it may have been deleted. If you didn't get a notice with a "warning", or points listed against you, it means that it was most likely a relatively harmless (but off topic or not helpful) post. We have never allowed nasty comments to others, or offensive insults (like Village Idiot- yes, that is an insult). It may be sarcasm, but if it is accompanied by an insult or snarkiness designed to insult a member, it will be removed. That policy has not changed, and it will not change.
You can always send me a note privately, either via the "conversation" part of the forum, where the link is on the upper left or under my name by my avatar if you click my name, or via the "contact us" link on the help pages.
I think that all of us as admins and moderators do a good job of being fair. Consider we are volunteers, and spend our time here for the good of the forum. I spent about an hour of my Friday night just answering the report of this thread, cleaning it up, sending notes to the "bad guys", and assigning warnings on the infractions. I don't play favorites, as I genuinely like everybody that I've interacted with on this forum, and I think I speak (or rather, type) with respect to each member.
You may not know what was said/done to another member. But the behavior will change or they will very quickly disappear from this forum.
We are here to share our hobby with like-minded individuals. We don't all agree, but we must always be respectful of others in those disagreements.