We all learn as we go, so no need for it to be awkward
@sodbuster he's making a good point, though, and he's saying it to help.
Everything you read so far about oxygen is totally true and can/will kill hop flavor. If we're reading your post right then not cleaning and sanitizing your fermentor/kegs could also easily be causing you some flavor problems. My guess is that it's still not why your hop flavor is disappearing. I still bet on the oxidation. You're mixing a lot of old yeast, trub, and hop matter from those previous batches into the fresh IPA you're brewing, though. That's almost surely going to affect the flavor. The more you let it go the more likely it's going to turn into some thing worse like a full blown infection. Let us know if we're off base here.
Even though I'm betting on oxidation being the problem I would still
definitely address the cleaning and sanitizing first. If you want to make the cleaning easier then make sure your processes are tight. Rinse everything before it dries off. Make sure you have the tools handy to break stuff down and rinse it all right away. Then soaking stuff in some PBW and a light wipe are usually all you need. Nobody on here cleans/sanitizes because it's fun. We all do it because it's necessary!