Anyone else lonely tonight?

[Evan!]

Rich, you're underestimating the power of our good friend alcohol

Truthier words have never been spoked.

 

[VatorMan]

I was in a MC bar in Bartonsville PA (Poconos) and had a biker chick grab my junk and told me that I was her bitch.Too bad she was fat.:fro:

 

[aekdbbop]

I think there are two guys who want to have a good time with you lonely fellows..

 

[RichBrewer]

I think there are two guys who want to have a good time with you lonely fellows..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nt2OVAgkHBc&feature=related

Oh hell! I'd fit right in! Thanks for that!

 

[Ize]

Ah Rich, this O'Fallon Wheach is for you man. Life is all in how you observe it and trust me, eyeballing it shrewdly helps the outlook immensely. Keeps you sharp and on your toes. :rockin:

All the best, bud.

Ize

 

[BigKahuna]

Ritch...I feel for you, but you get no sympathy from me.
I too have seen your payoff to Yooper. You have no excuse...other than you are here...Drunk....and Lonesome. Get off your ass this Thursday, Drive to the Grizzly Rose (Ladies Night), tell some 22 year old whatever that you make home brew, your a moderator on HBT, and that you can screw like a DeWalt.

What you got...ain't nothing that a little young thing out for a good time wont' fix...that'll build your confidence to find some gal your own age...Pair up with some other guy, a real swinger...Smooth Operator, and work as his wing man...Getting a little from the ugly friend beats the hell out of not getting any at all.

That's what worked for me anyway.

 

[Bedlam]

Yeah, Rich, what he said!

You'd be amazed at how us younger chicks dig the more mature crowd. Less bull****, more skill in the sack. Oh, yeah! Worked for me...I married a man 12 years older than myself...and a great deal of that had to do with being tired of the bull****. And by 'tired of the bull****', I mean the following:

drama
him getting his rocks off in 17.4 seconds and leaving me to my own devices after that
looking for a momma to take care of all the crap he should've learned to do long ago
living in a pigsty
calling me "babe"
not caring if he gives back anything
NOT BEING GRATEFUL

So, Rich, now that I've seen The Pic and, more importantly, read your touching, literate and charasmatic posts, I see NO REASON for you to be lonely. Just get out there, man, and above all, be genuine. Us chicks see all the games; we've heard every line. Just be yourself. That's plenty, sweetie!

 

[superfluent]

Since the thread is rapidly derailing into giving Rich dating advice, I'd just want to say (to qualify myself) I'm also sitting at home, alone, dating Ms. C2H5OH tonight...and I'm officially single again after 13 years.

OK, there are a few things that needs to be said about connecting with people (in this case women). Here's my $0.02:

*First of all, regardless if you're after women or buissness oportunities you GOT to be in the right environment. If you're sitting home drinking beer by yourself you will by defenition not be out interacting with people (women/buissness). The more time you're out in the right environment, the higher posibility you have of actually stumbling uppon Ms Right, right?

OK, so now for the more hands on advice to go with "just be yourself". The thing is that women also "play games" and use "lines" to test you (right, Bedlam ;-).

The trick for attracting people (women) is to stand out in a *positive* way:

* Never lie about what you do or who you are (you're setting yourself up for failure once you lied to the person you later figure out you want to spend the rest of your life with)
* Be congruent and be your *best* self.
* Be the happy guy, the glass "half full guy" - people like positive energy

OK, so this last advice is something that might sound counterintuitive, but it is really the most important and powerful advice I have. This is my cardinal advice:

* Never ever buy women drinks or do other stuff they ask you to do when you've just met. It is generally just a test to see how much power they have over you (how attracted/needy you are to them). Make them work for your affection. Integrity and standards are way more attracting than neediness and/or good looks -it is way more satisfying for people *winning* someones affection than having it handed on a silver plate the first minute. Hell, have them buy you a drink for a change -if they like your company, they'll do it (trust me).

/
H

 

[RichBrewer]

Thinking about last night and reading through this today I must apologize for my comments in this thread. Too much alcohol had a hand in my comments but I make no excuses. I slipped quite easily into a fit of whining and complaining. I decided to wallow in it along with the alcohol.
I feel better this evening. (In more ways than one! water and lots of Tylenol work wonders.)
I am and have been lonely for a very long time. It's important for me to acknowledge that. It is something I can't ignore. I can also see that dwelling and wallowing in my feelings accomplishes nothing. It just makes things worse. I am lonely and have been for longer than I care to mention. It sucks to say the least. Not having some basic needs met for so long wears a person down. Now, where can I go from here? I can wallow or I can move forward. I think I will move forward. I'm not saying I won't slip back into wallowing but hopefully I can see that and change my thoughts.
Anyway, Thanks to everyone for the kind words of encouragement! Thanks to all the great ideas for getting me laid too although I know that isn't really what I need right now. I can't believe I just said that!
Enough of that! I'm sorry and I promise to be good.
Can I come back in and play now?

 

[VatorMan]

ehhh.everyone goes through dry spells. Even married guys. Hell Especially married guys.

 

[Nurmey]

You can come back and play if you hold your wallowing down to once in a while. Also, only allowed when we are here to hold your hand or kick you in the butt as needed.

 

[BrewWench]

Hey, as long as you don't whine about being a "nice guy that no woman ever wants to date," and your man ****s are minimal as Evan! said, you're probably good to go.

Seriously, I've dated a few guys who would just p!ss and moan about never getting dates because they "get passed over for the a$$holes." It gets old REAL fast! Exude some confidence - dude, hell, you know what to do. I don't even know how old you are - I shouldn't be giving dating advice to anyone.

More importantly, find someone who likes good beer.

 

[RichBrewer]

You can come back and play if you hold your wallowing down to once in a while. Also, only allowed when we are here to hold your hand or kick you in the butt as needed.

At this point I think a good kick in the butt is required!

Hey, as long as you don't whine about being a "nice guy that no woman ever wants to date," and your man ****s are minimal as Evan! said, you're probably good to go.

Seriously, I've dated a few guys who would just p!ss and moan about never getting dates because they "get passed over for the a$$holes." It gets old REAL fast! Exude some confidence - dude, hell, you know what to do. I don't even know how old you are - I shouldn't be giving dating advice to anyone.

More importantly, find someone who likes good beer.

Hey! I'm working on the man ****s. I think I'm almost to the point where I can throw away my man bra!

Oh and I agree. What more important trait than liking good beer?

 

[Ryanh1801]

I got a song for ya Rich.

"I got Drunk by myself last night, they say its no way to make things right, I just didn't have anything better to do."

 

[BrewWench]

Oops - I didn't know this was posted like 2 days ago. Hope you're feeling a bit better, Rich!

Anyway, the conference in Cincy will take your mind off of things. I'm hoping it does the same for me

 

[RichBrewer]

Anyway, the conference in Cincy will take your mind off of things. I'm hoping it does the same for me

It is going to be a blast! I'm looking forward to meeting new friends and old. We all might even enjoy a good beer or two!

 

[BrewWench]

"A beer or two." That made me LOL.

 

[Yooper]

Enough of that! I'm sorry and I promise to be good.
Can I come back in and play now?

Hey- you posted in DRMM, no apology necessary!

I went through a divorce myself about 10 years ago. That was the worst period of my life, but the best step I could have taken. Trust those of us who have been through it- you WILL get through this. I felt lonely during my marriage, and that was what finally caused the divorce. It's lonely sometimes being alone- but it's 100 times worse when you're lonely and your "life partner" is 2 feet away.

Rich, you're an attractive and intelligent man. You will make it through this- I promise.

And, I'll even buy the first beer in Cincy!

 

[david_42]

One of the reasons I moved WAY out in the country: It's much better being alone when there isn't anyone around.

 

[BigKahuna]

ehhh.everyone goes through dry spells. Even married guys. Hell Especially married guys.

My first response when I read " anyone Else Lonely?" was:

HECK YA, I'm MARRIED!!!

 

[RichBrewer]

Hey- you posted in DRMM, no apology necessary!

I went through a divorce myself about 10 years ago. That was the worst period of my life, but the best step I could have taken. Trust those of us who have been through it- you WILL get through this. I felt lonely during my marriage, and that was what finally caused the divorce. It's lonely sometimes being alone- but it's 100 times worse when you're lonely and your "life partner" is 2 feet away.

Rich, you're an attractive and intelligent man. You will make it through this- I promise.

And, I'll even buy the first beer in Cincy!

Well I definately had some DR and very MM!

Thanks for the kind words. From everything I gather, you made it through quite well!

Your on! First beers on you!

 

[c.n.budz]

Rich, the last thing you need to do is apologize. Everyone needs to vent and whine at some point, and if you can't do it locally and in person, you do it among your friends with common interests. I won't be making it to Cincy this year, but feel free to look me up for a beer if you should ever make it to New England. I'm sure the YI guys and others would happily meet up for a beer or twenty...

And, stop bitchin' and go get yourself some cougar action!:rockin:

 

[EvilTOJ]

Yea no kidding, cnbudz. Everyone just let the man blubber and cry like a drunken wussy! But seriously, when major life changes happen it can get rather overwhelming, and we want to take solace in those things we find comforting. I was living in Dumpsville (pop; me) a few months ago and I'm all too familiar with the DRMM forum. Not sure where I'm going with all this, except to say go get some, man!