WOW I want to brew with you when you add the near boiling wort to your carboy. I LOVE to see things explode. Reading this makes my head spin. The air in the carboy/bucket is the same as the air on the outside of the carboy/bucket. Plus the last time I checked near boiling water or wort does not produce steam, you have to actually be boiling it to make steam also steam does not sanitize the instant it touches something. It takes time not a lot but still takes time.
Near boiling wort should never be added to the container from my reading. You want to crash out undesirables by some rapid cooling method. The wort that goes into my carboy is <80F. The boiling water is added at the beginning while the wort is heating up (so it has time to cool to RT). Things do not explode unless they are put under pressure or flammable/explosive. Unless you put a cap on the carboy it will not explode. To prevent longterm stress (years) the first bit of water should be added slowly to warm the base but after that you can go wild with your water addition.
Water vapor/steam doesn't require anywhere close to boiling to be produced. Put a pot on the stove with water and stick a top on. You'll see moisture form very quickly, even while the water is still tepid. This is water vapor and when heated to at/near boiling does a very good job at killing things. Not in seconds, but the water stays VERY hot for quite a while in either glass or plastic. More than enough time to not be concerned about contamination. If really concerned about contamination you could put a stopper on the top of the carboy with a sterilized hose coming out. Kink the hose to prevent air from going in as the water vapor condenses. When your wort is cool you could put the end of the hose in the wort and release the kink. The vacuum will draw the wort into the carboy until the pressures are equal. Then you can remove the stopper and pour the rest of the wort in. Just not worth it IMO to get this anal since there are other places where we have a chance of slight contamination (racking without a closed system, bottling, etc.).
Then you're doing the shaking wrong. When I shaked my carboy/bucket I would cover the hole (where the airlock goes) shake the hell out of it and then unplug the hole. I can hear the air suck into the carboy/bucket. I repeat this 3-4 times.
That sucking sound means your wort is not cooled properly prior to adding to the container. What is happening is the water vapor is condensing in the air space creating a vacuum. When you release the plug the vacuum causes air to rush into the container. If the wort is cooled to RT, there will be no vacuum created, and thus, no need to repeat anything.
Now this one made me laugh. If you are displacing the air in the carboy/bucket that would mean that no air is staying in the wort. Plus I'm guessing that you have never used one of those little pumps. They move less air then what I do breathing now ad a defuser stone to the mix (restricts the hell out of it) and now you are talking very little air. You act like he's hooking a hose from a 150psi air compressor to it. Come on now.. There has been studies that proved that shaking the carboy/bucket for a few minutes can induce more air into the wort then the litle pump and stone can in 30 minutes.
My primary hobby is in the aquarium trade. I'm well aware of the capabilities of the air pumps. Over 30-60 minutes that small amount of air adds up, even with a restrictor inline (filter/diffuser). You are aerating the wort, the purpose of this is to dissolve the atmospheric oxygen back into solution. The process of boiling releases much of the dissolved gases so that the amount of oxygen in the wort is less than the air around it. Once this amount of oxygen is dissolved back into the wort they are at equilibrium (close to equal amounts). No matter how much you add after this point, only the oxygen being consumed by the yeast is being replenished, the rest is just going right back out the mouth of the container (you can't dissolve more oxygen in the wort than is in the air when using air). This whole time the other 79% of air that is not oxygen is being forced into the liquid, and bubbling right out the top. This is a dangerous route because you are introducing potential contaminants directly INTO the wort. So with ease I can say that less than 1% of the air you are pumping in is going to stay in the wort. The rest is going to just bubble right to the surface, and that air is going to push the air above it, so on and so on, until it reaches the mouth of the container.
HTH, and no worries...I've got a thick skin, and enjoy debate.