Just to be perfectly clear, you are talking about starting up an illegal brew pub.
Not even close. An illegal brewpub would be an ongoing operation. A single dinner, served with a selection of beers from maybe 3-4 batches comes no where close to an "illegal brewpub".
Home brewers have been fighting to get making beer for personal use legalized and this casts a "bad light" on the community as a whole, when someone decides the rules do not apply to them. This gets amplified when you are talking about doing something so many of us dream and aspire to do...so do not be "shocked" by the less than receptive responses here.
Don't be so shocked when I call this response dramatic. I hear a faint violin as I read this paragraph... Seriously, one guy, hosting an infrequent, secret dinner, serving homebrewed beer paired with select dishes, does not cast a bad light over the whole community, hell it doesn't even cast a bad light on him!
What the OP suggested amounts to slightly more than inviting your friends over for dinner. It is VERY common in many areas. I guess the posters who live in small towns and rural areas, where if you fart, Joe from 3 miles away knows about it, would obviously have a different view point. But coming from someplace where this could have happened next door last night and I wouldn't have known the difference between it and my neighbor's normal Sunday football gatherings, I don't see anything wrong with it.
If you live someplace where the cops are just waiting to come bust you for accepting $5 for a growler from an acquaintance, I got one word for you: MOVE. Sounds like a crappy place to live because those shadowy authorities are definitely waiting to jump you for other things too.
I hate the government just as much as the next libertarian, but jeez, lighten up people. I'm sure the OP's "illegal brewpub" isn't going to cause Congress to ban homebrewing again.
They might try to tax it, but that's a different story....lol