Meh. Thats just people. We all want and NEED to know were important to the one who WE feel should make us feel that way. As we grow we begin to understand this dynamic. Her questioning attitude and pressure can be interpreted (in my experience) as do you think Im important? Is beer more important to you than me? Simple questions stemming from basic needs but HUGE ramifications if not dealt with. Understanding people and learning each others queues for acceptance and value are far more important than the TIME itself spent on each other / with each other / with our external hobbies.
On brew day, at least in the beginning should, yes, be self-centered but if external hobbies cause internal strife for our loved ones simple gestures of reassurance are in order
And, if peace and solitude (i.e. desire for focus on the task at hand) is expected you have to explain those expectations. YOU expect to be focused on your love of the moment but HER (or his) expectations may be different. Discuss expectations, arrive at an understanding, and reassure through simple gestures that they are indeed important, needed, loved, desired, etc.
Granted, YOUR brew day may be the one and only solitude you get and you just want to be alone. Its hard for loved ones (Including us) to understand that others WANT to be alone
Away from the other. Solace is certainly achieved individually but at what cost? Again, back to expectations
In a nut shell, discuss expectations and conclude with an understanding that fares well with both sides. The discussion alone may be the only tool needed in order to reassure value. Communication
. Its the only link between feeling happy and BEING happy. Cheers mate and warmest regards.
-JM