Before I start the story, I've told her that we need to talk tonight and she has some idea what I want to discuss. I'm not just on here asking strangers about it and not discussing it with her. It's something we need to work out between us, but I want to get some insight from others and am somewhat embarrassed and don't want to discuss it with close friends and family.
My wife went out of town for work last week. I've been concerned about her trips to this particular sales meeting since last year when a co-worker from a different branch managed to get his hand in her pants at a bar one night. We discussed that and it still left me with some questions that she just couldn't answer, like, "How was he groping you enough that he felt comfortable putting his hand down your pants without you stopping it?" It doesn't help that she spends the nights hanging out with her co-workers in a bar staying up late fueled by too much alcohol and questionable decisions.
Here's the part where I'm the un-trusting jerk. When she got home Sunday I took her phone in to a shop to be repaired (cracked iphone screen) and I thought I'd surprise her by getting it fixed for her. When I was testing the phone after getting it back I scrolled through one of her text messages from some guy that was there.
They discussed a picture that he described as "a keeper" and whether or not it was sent to somebody while they were drunk. He asked her if she was still a vegetarian since 4am that morning (She's been vegetarian for a couple of years now and you might be able to see where my mind went when he had to ask if it had changed since 4am). They talked about him liking 50 shades of grey. He commented about how people think "He's (_insert specific race_)* from the waist down" (I think you can likely fill in that blank). She flirted right along with him on that one. She came home with a sore throat and no voice (this could actually be benign in nature, but you might have guessed by now what I think is happening). She sent emojis of what look like playboy bunnies dancing. To top it all off she has gone into an un-used conference room at work to video chat with him on breaks at work.
When it came up in conversation I asked her who Steve is. (Name changed......just because). She said, "Oh, Steve is just the guy that drives the shuttle that drove us around." Steve is not just the shuttle driver. He's a co-worker from another branch and she's got a mile long list of texts with him with flirty talk and stuff that seems to imply more than just friendly conversation. They're friends on facebook now.
Am I crazy to think something is going on here? There was a lot of just friendly banter in the text message outside of the specific examples that I brought up. I just feel, in my gut, like something happened while she was there and would likely happen again if they're back together for some reason. How does somebody approach this sort of subject in a marriage?
TLDR: I think my wife is messing around on me while out of town for business.
My wife went out of town for work last week. I've been concerned about her trips to this particular sales meeting since last year when a co-worker from a different branch managed to get his hand in her pants at a bar one night. We discussed that and it still left me with some questions that she just couldn't answer, like, "How was he groping you enough that he felt comfortable putting his hand down your pants without you stopping it?" It doesn't help that she spends the nights hanging out with her co-workers in a bar staying up late fueled by too much alcohol and questionable decisions.
Here's the part where I'm the un-trusting jerk. When she got home Sunday I took her phone in to a shop to be repaired (cracked iphone screen) and I thought I'd surprise her by getting it fixed for her. When I was testing the phone after getting it back I scrolled through one of her text messages from some guy that was there.
They discussed a picture that he described as "a keeper" and whether or not it was sent to somebody while they were drunk. He asked her if she was still a vegetarian since 4am that morning (She's been vegetarian for a couple of years now and you might be able to see where my mind went when he had to ask if it had changed since 4am). They talked about him liking 50 shades of grey. He commented about how people think "He's (_insert specific race_)* from the waist down" (I think you can likely fill in that blank). She flirted right along with him on that one. She came home with a sore throat and no voice (this could actually be benign in nature, but you might have guessed by now what I think is happening). She sent emojis of what look like playboy bunnies dancing. To top it all off she has gone into an un-used conference room at work to video chat with him on breaks at work.
When it came up in conversation I asked her who Steve is. (Name changed......just because). She said, "Oh, Steve is just the guy that drives the shuttle that drove us around." Steve is not just the shuttle driver. He's a co-worker from another branch and she's got a mile long list of texts with him with flirty talk and stuff that seems to imply more than just friendly conversation. They're friends on facebook now.
Am I crazy to think something is going on here? There was a lot of just friendly banter in the text message outside of the specific examples that I brought up. I just feel, in my gut, like something happened while she was there and would likely happen again if they're back together for some reason. How does somebody approach this sort of subject in a marriage?
TLDR: I think my wife is messing around on me while out of town for business.
