Calichusetts
Well-Known Member
Having a baby is a lot like turning 21: You gonna have a lot of experiences you've never had before but you suddenly find life is a lot more expensive
but what do I know.
(1)... is people telling me my life is over, (2) no more social life, (3) no more sports, (4) no more hobbies, (5) no more sex... (6) Will I be able to hang out with friends, (7) make beer, (8) go on 100km bike bike rides? (9) I'm sure It can't be that bad, (10) I expect it to change my life completely, (11) but I'd it to the point that I'm only living for the baby? I'm just curious as to other people experience when they had newborns/young children.
Here's a few things I did AFTER having kids (3 daughters).
Bought a vintage sports car
Acquired a room full of fine archtop guitars
Recorded and released a couple of CD albums
Started cycling and completed a Century ride
Started running and finished a marathon
Learned to brew beer
And that includes none of the special things I've done with my kids, or the pride gained from watching their accomplishments.
As long as YOU are alive, life's just beginning.
So I found out I'm gonna be a dad for the first time, the baby is coming in November. I really excited and really happy, but at the time I'm freaking out, all I hear and read is people telling me my life is over, no more social life, no more sports, no more hobbies, no more sex... Will I be able to hang out with friends, make beer, go on 100km bike bike rides? I'm sure It can't be that bad, I expect it to change my life completely, but I'd it to the point that I'm only living for the baby? I'm just curious as to other people experience when they had newborns/young children.
@psylocide
I didn't ask for any stupid answers. I asked for experience from other people of what it's like having a kid for the first time
"Not even a billion dollars and a basket of puppies that never get bigger."
this. the children simply get folded into the mix of what you do. yeah, it isn't exactly the same as before but it also isn't like you need to become a completely new person (unless you want to). i've finished two basements, built a bathroom, built an outdoor sauna, extensive business travel, etc. all with kids. mine are 8 and 9 now plus a new little guy that isn't even six months. hell, even with all that i've been working on my basement brewery build for the last eight months. you just fold them into the mix...
That little tike looks like hes in the splash zone
That little tike looks like hes in the splash zone
I should also add that I'm very lucky in the sense that both of our parents are less than 10min car ride away
Another thing I'm really happy about is my brother is gonna have His first baby a month before me, and we're very close so at least I will have someone who's going through the same thing at the same time
my life is over
no more social life
no more sports
no more sex...
hang out with friends
make beer
go on 100km bike bike rides?
Life as you know it is over.
Not as you know it.
Hope you like cartoons.
Not until she wants another one...
Only friends with kids.
Tough one... but can be done with proper wife management.
Cars are much more efficient to traverse great distances.
Overall it's a positive experience.
My Qualifications: 3 kids, now 22,19 and 18.So I found out I'm gonna be a dad for the first time, the baby is coming in November. . Will I be able to hang out with friends, make beer, go on 100km bike bike rides? I'm sure It can't be that bad, I expect it to change my life completely,
As the father of 4 year old twins, it's terrifying. You have someone that is solely dependent upon you and your SWMBO. I was a partier in college, worked in the oilfields, spent 6 in the USAF, and nothing that I've done has been more rewarding than hearing those two say 'I love you, dada!' Can you still do everything that you did before, sure, maybe not as frequently at first, but it returns. In a couple years you might even have an assistant brewer on your hands. RDWHAHB. Like Bob Marley said, every little things gonna be alright. Congrats to the both of you!
How many of your wives raise the kid 80% of the time?
How many of your wives raise the kid 80% of the time?
Another thing I'm really happy about is my brother is gonna have His first baby a month before me, and we're very close so at least I will have someone who's going through the same thing at the same time
How many of your wives raise the kid 80% of the time?
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