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Old 01-14-2013, 05:32 PM   #11
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Personally, I'd let this one go. I dont see any upside. I would treaten to poke her though.
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Old 01-14-2013, 05:48 PM   #12
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Don't apologize unless you actually do something wrong. Don't be like a woman and wait around all moody and passive aggressive either. Talk to her about it. Explain your point of view rationally just like you did here. If she still has a problem after you two understand each other, you have bigger problems then trivia.
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Old 01-14-2013, 05:49 PM   #13
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Sorry for double post, my iPhone acting like an iPhone.
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Old 01-14-2013, 09:21 PM   #14
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I see no benefit to letting this go. You guys are right there are deeper issues here. My wife feels she doesn't have to take into consideration the impact of her words on other people. If i let this go I am just reinforcing that habit.
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Old 01-14-2013, 09:22 PM   #15
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Was it really that bad? Or just your wife getting snitty after a few too many? It came across as the latter
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Old 01-14-2013, 09:39 PM   #16
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Thanks guys for listening, just needed go blow off some steam last night. Still waiting for a admission of guilt from the wife, which may be a while. Normally I cave just to get things back to the status quo. Not this time, let's see how long this takes.
I've been married 25 years and I'm still waiting for an admission of guilt from my wife for something (anything) that she's ever done.

The best I've ever gotten is that I'm NOT 100% wrong. If you can get her to admit it's only 50% your fault, consider it a victory.

I'm not even kidding.
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Old 01-15-2013, 07:49 AM   #17
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"I'm not even kidding."


30 years here.

First thing is you have to figure out what's actually important to you? Somebody in any marriage has to cut the other some slack sometimes. It's not a matter of training your spouse, it's a matter of getting along and dealing with something big in your lives.

As I said you'll have bigger problems to face down the road. If this situation as you've described it is too much to write off for you, what are you going to do when someting really rough happens?

Not trying to offend you, I'd hate to see this as a start to a divorce. Good luck.

 
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Old 01-16-2013, 02:27 AM   #18
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I'm way too late for this to be of any help, but did you just tell her why you did what you did? If it's against the rules for the team to help, and you wanted to follow the rules, then there's no cause for anger on either side.
Maybe she forgot the team wasn't supposed to help, or whatever. Not being there, I can't say.
But in my experience, things like this are usually an error in perception, and if both sides know what the other side was thinking, it smooths over fast and opens the door to further communication down the road.

 
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Old 01-16-2013, 01:50 PM   #19
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