I want to provide an
update but if you have picked up anything about me it's that I tend toward wordiness... So I'll try to keep it on point.
The other night I saw an opportunity (based on SWMBO's mood) to discuss gently the issue of beer. I brought it up and kind of poked for a reason, etc. While I didn't get a ton of answers, she DID say that she "didn't mean 1 beer/1.5 weeks as a
rule (but I can promise it was when she laid it down). Herein is the benefit of knowing my wife that all of the advisers here don't have -- as I said in this thread I kind of think she was just laying down a test on me, if I can only drink that much and prove I'm not an AA, then she will back down (contrary to the suggested "push harder" provided here). And that's kind of what happened.
She ended up saying she just didn't want me "drinking every night." And to be sure, I don't really want to either - I'll get fat, it's a depressant, etc.
One of my big issues with all this stupidity was that she
knew that I was "emptying bottles" so I would have enough come [homebrew] bottling time. I was drinking 2/night and saving all the bottles. So it's quite frustrating that knowing that she was still so anxious and willing to make me so mad for so long and just not care.
Anyway, we didn't specifically say how many was "ok" but I am sure I could drink a couple or 4 beers per week and not have much issue. I guess we'll see about all that. More likely it's just a matter of me picking my opportunities and not drinking beer when it would be stupid to do so (like if I have already just pissed her off
)
So, a heavy drinker might not call this a "happy ending" (hehe, not a true happy ending in any sense of the phrase) but it works out for me. I guess the proof will be in the drinking....