Unfriend a dead girl?

[captianoats]

So a girl I went to school with was killed in a collision last weekend. She was 28 years old... tragic, but not the reason for this question.

But this leads to my question. When is it socially acceptable to "unfriend" her on facebook? It's not like there will be new status updates.

 

[Hoppin_Mad]

Such a modern day question

 

[Kokopuff829]

Ya dude there's no point it's not going to bother you in any way so just keep it on there jeez

 

[Reelale]

hahahaha. Not laughing at the tragedy, but the parody strikes deep. It's a time in the land, mac. A time in the land. Maybe google has the answer.

 

[bob1852]

For me it depends how close you were. My cousin died a few years ago at age ~24. I'm still "friends" with her - it's nice to see stuff that other family and friends post on her page at the anniversary of her passing.

 

[pablo1337]

I'd have to say never...

Even if you were not close how do you benefit from de-friending her? just my opinion though...

 

[Revvy]

For me it depends how close you were. My cousin died a few years ago at age ~24. I'm still "friends" with her - it's nice to see stuff that other family and friends post on her page at the anniversary of her passing.

I agree, a buddy of mine died a couple years ago. Occasionally his sister signs on with his password and just kinda updates how his kids and such are doing and that she misses him.

I hit the page every now and then as well.

 

[Pumbaa]

So a girl I went to school with was killed in a collision last weekend. She was 28 years old... tragic, but not the reason for this question.

But this leads to my question. When is it socially acceptable to "unfriend" her on facebook? It's not like there will be new status updates.

just out of curiosity . . . keep her friended for a month and see if she changes her status . . . but yeah after that I'd be dumping them

 

[JetSmooth]

My uncle died several years before Facebook. My cousin put up a profile for him for family to remember him by and so people searching on FB for him would know what happened to him.

We still post memories about him on his wall sometimes.

 

[Airborneguy]

I just deleted my Facebook account less than 5 minutes ago because my wife does not know how to properly use it and put too much crap on there. Now I won't see it at least.

But in regards to the OP's question, my Aunt got a hold of my grandmother's password somehow after she died. Lo and behold, everyone started getting these encouraging messages from her on their pages whenever they would post something depressing, upsetting, contemplative, etc. We pretty much knew it was her right away, but due to the sensitive nature of the issue, we waited until we had proof (my cousin caught the account logged in on his mother's computer). It was dealt with, and the account was deleted. It was a really strange incident.

I *had*, until recently (see above), a friend on Facebook from the Army who suddenly died not long after I found him on there. His friends post on the page occasionally and its kinda cool. Once in awhile, his brother, sister and wife post messages about their current events. I actually thought it was a good idea.

 

[Reelale]

You facebook people are kinda....well... creepy.

 

[bob1852]

You facebook people are kinda....well... creepy.

says the guy with 7500+ posts in TapRoom.....which is basically facebook....

 

[Reelale]

says the guy with 7500+ posts in TapRoom.....which is basically facebook....

But, alas, none of them.....not one, has to do with a deceased person. So zip it, creepy.

 

[matthewgardner]

Are you married? I say stick with the "friend" thing. Offer to help out with some sort of memorial for the girl...then try to get with all her hot friends while you are dealing with your "grief".

This is Charlie Sheen; tiger blood behavior, can you go for the epic win?

 

[tbel]

I would go with what ever you feel comfortable. I don't think anyone will criticize either way. I had a friend/coworker die a couple of years ago, at first I kept her on my list of friends, after a few months her daughter started posting updates as if they were from her mother. I just found that creepy and strange, so I removed her from the list (along with the daughter).

 

[Homercidal]

Well, if she is not going to post, why worry about unfriending her? I say let it ride. You never know what might pop up on there. I think that dropping it too early might seem insensitive to her family and friends.