SWMBO Woes

[SmugMug]

You're probably right. In the meantime, a mild sedative should buy you a few hours at least...should be plenty of time to brew a batch and be all cleaned up, and when she wakes up, she'll never know it happened. Just be sure to hide the carboy well...

Wait...SHE's supposed to get the sedative. Had it backwards the whole time.

/I'm heavily medicated for your protection.

 

[IrregularPulse]

I didn't brew until my son was 2 months old. He's now 9 months old and I've got 50 gallons brewed since then. I know that's childs play compared to alot of people here but it's kept 1 keg on tap consistently.
The new baby is overwhelming and she doesn't wanna think about anything else that's going to take up money/time/stress.
You will soon realize that babies are easy and awesome. Sure you have some nights, but they go so fast you won't think anything of it by the time he's a month or two old. You'll be right back into the swing of things.
And if she breast feeds, babies are NOT expensive. Just make sure to have a few baby showers!!

 

[Shooter]

With kids it's tough, try buying a motorcycle about a month after your kid is born!!! That's what I did when our oldest was born a few years back. I think my wife worried, still does, but I've shown her that I ride safetly and wear full gear when I ride and she learned to accept it. Not long after the second kid was a year old I took up brewing. So far she's been okay with it. I think she likes that it's a little lower risk!

With two kids it's hard to make time for anything. If I get out on my bike for a couple hour ride every month I'm satisfied. If I can get out twice it's a banner month.

In the end you just have to work it out. My wife takes a few hours for herself Sundays to go shopping. I watch the kids, and when they go down for their afternoon nap, that's my brew time. I have to be home anyways. So, they sleep, I brew or bottle. As long as I get everything else done, I do most of the house cleaning and the dishes, she doesn't really complain because she sees I'm pulling my weight. I try to make time for the kids and help where I can. Like many of the others, we keep our joint/bill money separate and each have our own cash each month to spend however we want.

BTW, I thought I lost a lot of free time when we had one kid. Then I had another one and realized, I had no idea what lack of time meant!! Don't even ask me about my other hobby, home recording, that's pretty much down the drain. "Okay guys you settle down for a little nap, daddy's going to go crank up his amp in the next room, pleasant dreams boys!"

 

[Reverend JC]

Seasons: such a vague term.

Lets see, we have the celebrate Martin Luther King season

The Valentines season

Of course St. Pattys day

Then the in like a lion out like a lamb season

Memorial day season

ummmmm, 4th of july season

you get the idea. I count at least 12 different Seasons per year. 24 batchs fo you my good man. Not to shabby.

 

[SmugMug]

Seasons: such a vague term.

Lets see, we have the celebrate Martin Luther King season

The Valentines season

Of course St. Pattys day

Then the in like a lion out like a lamb season

Memorial day season

ummmmm, 4th of july season

you get the idea. I count at least 12 different Seasons per year. 24 batchs fo you my good man. Not to shabby.

You wouldn't happen to be a lawyer would you? I like the cut of your jib good sir.

 

[conpewter]

Wait...SHE's supposed to get the sedative. Had it backwards the whole time.

/I'm heavily medicated for your protection.

Hey SmugMug, thanks for keeping your cool in this discussion. Anyway I think you have the right idea on how to handle the situation, over time things will work out, give and take etc.

I thank God for my wife, she supports me in the things I want to do, and I try to love her as I should (remember people, it's an action!) There is so much two people can bring to the relationship, I've continually been amazed.

 

[SmugMug]

Hey SmugMug, thanks for keeping your cool in this discussion. Anyway I think you have the right idea on how to handle the situation, over time things will work out, give and take etc.

I thank God for my wife, she supports me in the things I want to do, and I try to love her as I should (remember people, it's an action!) There is so much two people can bring to the relationship, I've continually been amazed.

An internet forum isn't worth getting all worked up over. Especially when I take a step back and look at how good my life really is right now (homebrew or not). It's all a matter of perspective and all I have to do is see the joy in the eyes of my son and wife when I come home and nothing, and I mean nothing, in this world matters. I have a good job, no debt, a healthy son and good friends. What else is there?

Oh yeah, I have good drugs too. The legally prescribed kind.

 

[Aleforge]

Kid back pack, strap them on and go to brewing. (bear optional)

 

[MSAstoria]

Congratulations on the baby.

Lot of good advice here. One more way to save some money, if you're not already doing it: culture yeast. Sure, there's lots of equipment you CAN buy to make that easier, but you really don't need it. Read the yeast washing sticky, pressure can some starter wort, and keep a frozen yeast bank. Most of it can be done with beer bottles and bleach/sanitizer.

 

[SpanishCastleAle]

Congrats on the child! Everything changes soon as it pops out. Nothing wrong with letting it all set in.

I think there have been some good points made. It has to be a two-way street.

 

[sundaybrewingco]

George Bluth Sr. said it best from the greatest TV show, Arrested Development....

"I don't... let them tell me... what to do."

Sadly, I don't listen to my own advice.. Good luck mate!

 

[drayman86]

She told me last night that I couldn't buy anymore equipment and do no more than 2 batches per season.

She doesn't exert any more control over you and your actions than YOU yourself allow.

Some "partnership" you two have there.....

 

[SmugMug]

She doesn't exert any more control over you and your actions than YOU yourself allow.

Some "partnership" you two have there.....

Some "enlightenment" you've delivered. I see the light now! dyaman86, you've saved the day!

 

[drayman86]

......., anyway, you need a man cave bad.

Yeah, something like this:

 

[Schlenkerla]

She doesn't exert any more control over you and your actions than YOU yourself allow.

Some "partnership" you two have there.....

Some "enlightenment" you've delivered. I see the light now! dyaman86, you've saved the day!

Play nice both you or we'll have to separate you.

 

[sundaybrewingco]

Yeah, something like this:

WOW! The Delorean framed picture on the wall. That is bad ass!

 

[SmugMug]

Schlenkerla, that was my first snarky comment in this whole thread! I think I was doing really well. It was low-hanging fruit....I couldn't help myself.

 

[Schlenkerla]

drayman86 threw a very low and outside pitch to you. You did a check swing there.

 

[drayman86]

WOW! The Delorean framed picture on the wall. That is bad ass!

That's hilarious; I get more comments about the DeLorean pic than anything else in the cave. Maybe I'll put it on eBay.

 

[drayman86]

drayman86 threw a very low and outside pitch to you. You did a check swing there.

Hey, I call 'em like I see 'em, and besides....SmugMug posted his lamentations about his personal situation that invited comment and reply.

It's always a puzzlement to me why either a man or a woman would involve themselves in a relationship where they allow themselves to be dictated to.

I'll stick to dating Miss Michigan before I'd ever sacrifice compromise and common ground.

 

[Kronin]

Relationships are about communication, period. sounds like she is communicating her worries to you and vice-versa... exactly like it should be. That doesn't mean it is fun, but you'll get through it.
the main point of this lengthy thread I think is there is an 8week old around now... this changes everything for real. just a fact.

Sounds like you're doing everything right here dude, expressing (venting) frustration to peers, working with your wife to solve issues together, and lastly, being a good dad.

Cheers mate,

 

[SmugMug]

Relationships are about communication, period. sounds like she is communicating her worries to you and vice-versa... exactly like it should be. That doesn't mean it is fun, but you'll get through it.
the main point of this lengthy thread I think is there is an 8week old around now... this changes everything for real. just a fact.

Sounds like you're doing everything right here dude, expressing (venting) frustration to peers, working with your wife to solve issues together, and lastly, being a good dad.

Cheers mate,

Thanks. Now all I need is for this last batch to finish bottle conditioning so I can relax and have a homebrew.

 

[Kronin]

Yeah, something like this:

Amazing what passes for a man cave these days.... I'd rather be in my garage. :cross:

 

[Schlenkerla]

Hey, I call 'em like I see 'em, and besides....SmugMug posted his lamentations about his personal situation that invited comment and reply.

It's always a puzzlement to me why either a man or a woman would involve themselves in a relationship where they allow themselves to be dictated to.

I'll stick to dating Miss Michigan before I'd ever sacrifice compromise and common ground.

More often it one does it to avoid conflict.

Any relationship has a more domineering person. The more domineering person dictates (makes a bulk of the decisions) whether they mean to or not. I don't believe any relationship is truly 50/50. If it is its a rarity. Some may be very close to 49/51

I'd guess the closer you are to 50/50 the more you argue or are extremely compatible. Those with the 60/40 "might" be more harmonious since one goes with the flow if the other is somewhat reasonable.

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

So...how does one catch a fart in a bottle/jar? If it really is possible, is it also possible to light the gasses in the jar on fire?? These are serious questions that require serious answers.

This is HBT, ask and you will be answered!!

And, yes, you can set light to it VERY easily.

 

[SmugMug]

More often it one does it to avoid conflict.

Any relationship has a more domineering person. The more domineering person dictates (makes a bulk of the decisions) whether they mean to or not. I don't believe any relationship is truly 50/50. If it is its a rarity. Some may be very close to 49/51

I'd guess the closer you are to 50/50 the more you argue or are extremely compatible. Those with the 60/40 "might" be more harmonious since one goes with the flow if the other is somewhat reasonable.

When you find yourself in a committed relationship you realize that you have to work at it. This means learning how the other works, not so you can manipulate, but so you can communicate. And that's all compromise really is. It's listening and understanding your partner's concerns, weighing your desires against their concerns, and ultimately coming to a common ground to satisfy both parties because you CARE. I agree that partnerships are rarely 50/50. Obviously my wife is the type A personality in our relationship whereas I'm more of a B. I don't like to argue....I don't HAVE to win to feel satisfied. I HATE when someone I love is upset or angry with me. So perhaps my personality is to bend a little more towards her side of the argument, but for me (in the end) it really is about keeping the peace.

Now back to our regularly scheduled flamewar.

 

[SmugMug]

This is HBT, ask and you will be answered!!

And, yes, you can set light to it VERY easily.

My webfilter at work blocked the pic. I'll have to come back after work to see that.

 

[beerkrump]

OMG, Mug you are about to be charged with thread arson, 'cause this ones on fire!!!

I can emphasize with you. I brewed quite a lot before I met my wife. I actually was working at a brew pub in California when we met. Life went forward and brewing took a back seat. Almost twenty years, fifteen years of marriage, four kids, and three houses later, brewing is back and getting bigger. :rockin: My SWMBO and I just keep a real strict budget and plan for surprises. And with your entry into parenthood (congrats and best of luck, by the by ) there will be surprises. Plan you brew days to be the best and don't buy equipment, just let everyone know what you want for your birthday, Christmas,and Father's Day (Hey, No.1 is just around the corner!)

And remember, RDWHAHB.

Oh yeah, gratuitous use of smilies.

 

[SmugMug]

OMG, Mug you are about to be charged with thread arson, 'cause this ones on fire!!!

I can emphasize with you. I brewed quite a lot before I met my wife. I actually was working at a brew pub in California when we met. Life went forward and brewing took a back seat. Almost twenty years, fifteen years of marriage, four kids, and three houses later, brewing is back and getting bigger. :rockin: My SWMBO and I just keep a real strict budget and plan for surprises. And with your entry into parenthood (congrats and best of luck, by the by ) there will be surprises. Plan you brew days to be the best and don't buy equipment, just let everyone know what you want for your birthday, Christmas,and Father's Day (Hey, No.1 is just around the corner!)

And remember, RDWHAHB.

Oh yeah, gratuitous use of smilies.

Thanks. That's pretty much the attitude I'm going to take.

And this thread is heading towards the stupid side of the epic scale. Perhaps it's time for it to die. Maybe with a little dignity, but I won't hold my breath. :cross:

 

[beerkrump]

OK, Gnome is posting regularly to this thread. Then, at 10:17 a question about farts comes up. Gnome is quiet until 12:49, and comes back with a sketch depicting how to catch farts in a jar. Did he google it, consult a third grade boy, or does it just take him that long to use MSPaint?