RO vs Distilled water for brewing?

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I have a well, so my whole house water goes thru water softener and sink has an ro so I guess I will stick to distilled gallons of water. Problem is now I am trying to figure out how to adjust the water using some settings from Recipes

There is nothing wrong with sending softened water through an RO system/membrane. In fact, it is advisable if you have very hard water and the RO membrane will last longer. All the sodium that was introduced at the softenter will be removed in the RO system. As many others have stated you should validate with a TDS meter and ensure you are dealing with chlorine/chloramine.