The honey addition is for two things. Some flavor (maybe) and to boost the OG of the batch.
I NEVER boil honey. I've made mead without heating the honey above 100-110F and they've come out great. I've also added honey to my wee heavy recipe/batch and it has had zero issues (added it as fermentation was slowing way down).
The thoughts that you need honey to be sterile is a carry-over from the panic years. I'll sanitize the container used to measure it, and any tools used on it, but that's about it.
BTW, I'm using RAW honey here. At most, it's been filtered (cold) a bit to remove bee parts. Otherwise, it's as pure/untouched as you can get without having your own bee hives. That's something I've thought about doing before, and might once I get my own house (and have the land to do it).