I know I havent been around this board that long and dont really know anyone but I need some advice.
My wife and I have been happily married for about a year and a half now. She likes to travel. I dont mind traveling so much but its not a requirement for me. If we go on a road trip or vacation or something, its because she wanted to go and I go just to make her happy. But thats fine. I love her and want her to be happy, and I am perfectly happy to go along.
We finally went on our "honeymoon" last October on our one year anniversary. All inclusive vacation to a nice resort in Tulum Mexico (Yucatan Peninsula). Coming up this June we have a trip planned for Vegas to celebrate her 30th birthday. 3 nights, 4 days at a nice Casino/hotel. Cant remember the name.
Now we arent poor but we arent rich either. Im still in grad school and the stipend I get is barely enough to live on. She has a pretty good job making about twice what I make for now. So with our combined income, we do OK. We are home owners in a nice enough neighborhood and I am happy where we are financially. She has some debt, I have 30K in student loans but Im not paying on them now (deferred until I graduate). The point Im trying to make is that we are OK financially so long as we live within our means.
When she brought up the idea of going to Vegas to celebrate her 30th I was a little apprehensive. I felt like that was a little bit excessive for a 30th bday, especially with our financial situation and the state of the economy and whatever. But I agreed to it.
Well, now she is wanting to go the the Dominican Republic for vacation this October with a bunch of SINGLE girls. I just cant agree to this. I tried to talk to her about it and its sort of leading to a big fight. Im trying to be honest with myself and list my precise reasons for being opposed to this. I wanted to hear opinions from married folks (preferably men, but women are welcomed to chime in as well) to see if I am just being way too unreasonable here. Here are my reasons in order of relevance:
1. I am a wory wort. I worry about everything. I would worry myself sick if she were to head off to a foreign country with a group of 5 girls and no men around. Ever heard of Natalie Holloway?
2. I dont think its right for a married women to even want to go on vacation with a bunch of SINGLE girls. I know how this works, they are going to be "hooking up" with random people and I can just see how stuff could get outta hand. I trust my wife whole heartedly and Im not even worried about her cheating on me. It just seem weird that a married woman feels the need to spend 10 days with single girls. I dont know why. This is why Im asking for advice. Am I just being silly?
3. We really dont have the money for this. There are tons of things we need to do around the house. I feel like, in this uncertain economy we are in, that we should try to be a little more frugal and save more. Now it would be different if she could say that its been a long time since she's been on vacation but thats not at all the case. Remember Mexico and Vegas, both less than a year apart. I feel like vacations are a luxury item that cant really be justified in our situation. Especially when we have already gone on two vacations in less than a year.
Thats basically it. Sorry the post is so long but I guess it was good for me to sit down and write out my feelings on this. Married folks, please chime in with your opinions.
My wife and I have been happily married for about a year and a half now. She likes to travel. I dont mind traveling so much but its not a requirement for me. If we go on a road trip or vacation or something, its because she wanted to go and I go just to make her happy. But thats fine. I love her and want her to be happy, and I am perfectly happy to go along.
We finally went on our "honeymoon" last October on our one year anniversary. All inclusive vacation to a nice resort in Tulum Mexico (Yucatan Peninsula). Coming up this June we have a trip planned for Vegas to celebrate her 30th birthday. 3 nights, 4 days at a nice Casino/hotel. Cant remember the name.
Now we arent poor but we arent rich either. Im still in grad school and the stipend I get is barely enough to live on. She has a pretty good job making about twice what I make for now. So with our combined income, we do OK. We are home owners in a nice enough neighborhood and I am happy where we are financially. She has some debt, I have 30K in student loans but Im not paying on them now (deferred until I graduate). The point Im trying to make is that we are OK financially so long as we live within our means.
When she brought up the idea of going to Vegas to celebrate her 30th I was a little apprehensive. I felt like that was a little bit excessive for a 30th bday, especially with our financial situation and the state of the economy and whatever. But I agreed to it.
Well, now she is wanting to go the the Dominican Republic for vacation this October with a bunch of SINGLE girls. I just cant agree to this. I tried to talk to her about it and its sort of leading to a big fight. Im trying to be honest with myself and list my precise reasons for being opposed to this. I wanted to hear opinions from married folks (preferably men, but women are welcomed to chime in as well) to see if I am just being way too unreasonable here. Here are my reasons in order of relevance:
1. I am a wory wort. I worry about everything. I would worry myself sick if she were to head off to a foreign country with a group of 5 girls and no men around. Ever heard of Natalie Holloway?
2. I dont think its right for a married women to even want to go on vacation with a bunch of SINGLE girls. I know how this works, they are going to be "hooking up" with random people and I can just see how stuff could get outta hand. I trust my wife whole heartedly and Im not even worried about her cheating on me. It just seem weird that a married woman feels the need to spend 10 days with single girls. I dont know why. This is why Im asking for advice. Am I just being silly?
3. We really dont have the money for this. There are tons of things we need to do around the house. I feel like, in this uncertain economy we are in, that we should try to be a little more frugal and save more. Now it would be different if she could say that its been a long time since she's been on vacation but thats not at all the case. Remember Mexico and Vegas, both less than a year apart. I feel like vacations are a luxury item that cant really be justified in our situation. Especially when we have already gone on two vacations in less than a year.
Thats basically it. Sorry the post is so long but I guess it was good for me to sit down and write out my feelings on this. Married folks, please chime in with your opinions.