You're close. I've been married almost 30 years and I've almost figured this stuff out.
A woman wants to tell you her problems, and have you listen and agree with whatever solution she came up with. This involves shaking your head in an affirmative manner and repeatedly muttering, 'You're right'. No other response is required. Any other response puts you in grave danger of becoming
the new problem.
If you don't participate in the conversation, then you're not listening, you don't care, and
you immediately become
the new problem.
Don't attempt to inject logic into the conversation or
you immediately become
the new problem.
Under no circumstances should you ever say 'Is this really that big of deal?' or
you immediately become
the new problem, and should probably get ready to duck because some airborne object is undoubtedly heading your way. I know this from experience. A pissed of woman will use anything as a projectile. I have a scar on my face from a potato masher my sister threw at me. I didn't even see it coming.