What boxes?
My wife is pissed
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There were boxes? Oh yeah, I see them now.
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My wife has been remarkably cool about my brewing. No complaining about the money spent or space occupied. I can’t think of a single argument or fight that has happened because of it. In fact, I can’t even think of a single negative comment I’ve heard her say (“don’t you have enough beer already?????,” etc.)
And I’m intent on keeping it that way. Having your wife at war with your hobbies SUCKS. One thing I learned from my first marriage is that once a woman starts down a path of being irritated with one of your hobbies, then she tends to focus on being irritated about it. Over time, this leads to the perception of her being “unreasonable,” and in fact, she probably is being unreasonable. The problem is, her irritation doesn’t just go away, it stays in a bank and accumulates. Eventually, the topic becomes touchy, and she reaches a point where, for example, your taking 10 minutes to pull and check a gravity sample is cause for her to get into a huff. Then, you get angry at her for being so “unreasonable,” say a bunch of things out of frustration, and the process repeats.
I’ve found a few basic guidelines do the trick:
- Making sure I properly clean up – and that includes empty bottles not piling up on the side of the counter (it’s easy for guys to complain about women nagging, but I wouldn’t be happy if my wife’s dog grooming were always leaving a big mess, so I understand the importance of this part. She cleans up, and so do I.)
- Demonstrating that I am giving consideration to what she likes by making sure there is always a stout available for her to drink (I like stouts too, so win/win)
- Selecting the time slots for brewing tasks based on common sense and courtesy. For example, if it’s 2 days before the annual family BBQ or Christmas gathering, there are probably 25 chores/errands that need to be done and it’s probably not a good idea to fire up the kettle.
Regarding the last point, I’ve got my process down to the point where I can bang out a brew day on a week night, which has been immensely helpful, because it means that any day of the week can be a candidate, as opposed to me being forced to strictly rely upon weekend time which has too many things competing for it.
And I’m intent on keeping it that way. Having your wife at war with your hobbies SUCKS. One thing I learned from my first marriage is that once a woman starts down a path of being irritated with one of your hobbies, then she tends to focus on being irritated about it. Over time, this leads to the perception of her being “unreasonable,” and in fact, she probably is being unreasonable. The problem is, her irritation doesn’t just go away, it stays in a bank and accumulates. Eventually, the topic becomes touchy, and she reaches a point where, for example, your taking 10 minutes to pull and check a gravity sample is cause for her to get into a huff. Then, you get angry at her for being so “unreasonable,” say a bunch of things out of frustration, and the process repeats.
I’ve found a few basic guidelines do the trick:
- Making sure I properly clean up – and that includes empty bottles not piling up on the side of the counter (it’s easy for guys to complain about women nagging, but I wouldn’t be happy if my wife’s dog grooming were always leaving a big mess, so I understand the importance of this part. She cleans up, and so do I.)
- Demonstrating that I am giving consideration to what she likes by making sure there is always a stout available for her to drink (I like stouts too, so win/win)
- Selecting the time slots for brewing tasks based on common sense and courtesy. For example, if it’s 2 days before the annual family BBQ or Christmas gathering, there are probably 25 chores/errands that need to be done and it’s probably not a good idea to fire up the kettle.
Regarding the last point, I’ve got my process down to the point where I can bang out a brew day on a week night, which has been immensely helpful, because it means that any day of the week can be a candidate, as opposed to me being forced to strictly rely upon weekend time which has too many things competing for it.
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ImNoExpert
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Sorry to continue a frankenthread, but my wife bought me my first kit for our anniversary. So anything brewing-related is really her fault and she should have realized this before she got me into this hobby.
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