Lost another friend this week

[Poobah58]

Lost a friend of 35 years or so to alcohol abuse a few days ago. He was 50 years young. It's the 2nd death of a friend this year to liver disease and the 3rd in 5 years. What a waste of life! I don't get how someone can get so attached to booze that it ruins their life and eventually kills them. I urge anyone who thinks they have a problem to seek PROFESSIONAL help. Think about the loved ones that you will leave behind and what it will do to them. That should be enough to make anyone get their act together.


Rip McC.....

 

[humann_brewing]

I am sorry for your loss.

 

[Yooper]

I don't know what to say. That's so difficult. I have a relative who is an alcoholic, and it ruin my childhood and it still affects me. Alcoholism really destroys the person, so they can't seem to make the choice between family and life, and the drink. In sober moments, I'm sure they aren't choosing to die or to hurt their families, but yet that's what happens when they drink.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

 

[BBKing]

Sorry for your loss

 

[DragonsLair]

First, my condolences on your loss. I lost my dad this last March to lung cancer. He started smoking in the Navy in the 50's and even though he managed to quit about ten years ago the damage was done. I think we got five more years with him because he quit which turned out to be the best five years because we did a lot of hunting and fishing together so I really got to know him. We were not that close most of my life.

All that aside, addiction is a usually a physical manifestation of mental issue; low self esteem, depression, stress, inability to cope, etc. People find it easier to self medicate than to get the real help they need. It is our job as friends and family to do what we can to give the love and support. You can't save them all. Some people are just hell bent on that path of destruction no matter what you do.

My Bro-in-law in on that path and it is killing my wife because she is his big sis and there is nothing she can do. Forgive the rambling but this is one of those things in life where there is never an easy answer. My thoughts and prayers are with you Poobah in this difficult time.

 

[Want2Brew]

I am so sorry for your loss my friend. I have a friend (more like a brother) who hanged him self about 7 years ago because, well because he could no longer cope with life I guess? I know it's not quite the same situation but in some ways I guess it is. I feel your pain and though we may never understand we may find some peace in knowing that our friends are no longer suffering. Keep up the good fight and help those that remain when you can.

 

[david_42]

I understand the attraction of alcohol, since my father's father died from it. My father was a teetotaler and I have always felt the pull of addiction. Good chance alcohol contributed to my brother's death. I've got a close friend who slides back and forth. She can not-drink without a problem, but if she starts a bottle, she finishes it. I tightly control what I drink, because I know it's necessary.

 

[jgln]

Sorry to hear that. Can I ask just what were his drinking habits like? Was he told he had heath issues and ignored them, did he slowly get more ill and refuse help or maybe just get real sick suddenly then died shortly thereafter? I guess I really don't know to look for.

 

[Poobah58]

Sorry to hear that. Can I ask just what were his drinking habits like? Was he told he had heath issues and ignored them, did he slowly get more ill and refuse help or maybe just get real sick suddenly then died shortly thereafter? I guess I really don't know to look for.

His father was an alcoholic and died in his 50's. He just told himself he was probably going to be the same way. He knew this when he was in his 20's! Drank at least a quart a day. His mother gave him her house, send him food money and sometime booze so he wouldn't go out to a bar. Unbelievable! He tried to stop last year when he had health issues but that lasted only a few months. Couldn't keep a girlfriend (shocker) but was an exceptional athlete and had a ton of buddies...