I live here now because it's the last place I worked while I was in the Navy. Retired from the Navy here. I have a house that isn't as valuable as the amount I owe on it.
Wife is from Hawaii and a few years ago she was asked by the college in Hawaii she had worked at when we lived there to come back. Her pay is cheap in my opinion, but she had the opportunity to go home and she hated it here. We lived in the armpit of CA.
Ive been trying to move out of here, not trying all that hard.. until my wife and my relationship got to a point that I either stayed here and we divorced or I moved to Hawaii and saved the marriage.
I know that is not perfect. I know, what woman, wife would shouldn't make a guy make that decision. I'm divorced once. I do not want to go through that again. So not sure if this move is for love or just my own vanity of not being divorced again. I'm a lost cause.. hahaha.
Just going to do what I need to do now. I never had any problems finding a good job in CA after I retired from the Navy. Plenty of good paying jobs for me here. Hawaii? I'm not so sure. Never done anything this haphazard in my life.
Please, nobody tell me, it will be okay. I know the slippery slope I'm standing on. It comes down to being alone or being with my wife. I do not want to be alone and I do know that the relationship with my wife isn't the best, but I do love her and she loves me. It's not a perfect relationship but it's what we have.
No more questions about this please, from anybody.