Husband complaining about my Home Brewing.

[camilagss]

So I got married 2 months ago (we've been living together for a year) and I recently decided to bring my brewing hobby to my home - I used to brew with three friends at a local bar, but my friends moved out of town so I'm brewing by myself now.

The thing is, my husband is being really weird about the whole thing. I make sure to never make a mess or even noises that would disturb him, but everyday now he seems to find something to complain about my hobby.

The other day I moved all of my equipment from the kitchen to my home-office / woman cave because he was saying that it was taking over the dog's space.

Have any of you guys ever had a similar issue? How did you fix it? I'm getting super bummed out because of it. I'd really like to be able to play some loud music and brew every weekend at my kitchen, without worrying that he's gonna be pissed.

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

Good satire. You had me buying into it for a moment.

 

[camilagss]

Good satire. You had me buying into it for a moment.

Er... I'm serious.

 

[allenH]

If he is more concerned about the "dog's space", you have greater issues than homebrewing. My ex never liked when I used to brew stovetop, but she tolerated it because it made me happy.

 

[camilagss]

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[brew_ny]

go electric no need for the stove

all the best

S_M

 

[camilagss]

If he is more concerned about the "dog's space", you have greater issues than homebrewing. My ex never liked when I used to brew stovetop, but she tolerated it because it made me happy.

Well, I think that he tolerates it. He seems to be worried about the mess. We live in a highrise apartment, so we don't have much space.

 

[camilagss]

go electric no need for the stove

all the best

S_M

I'll check it out.

But the problem doesn't really seem to be the stove, though. He seems to be bothered by the space the equipment is taking in the apartment.

 

[mtnagel]

Does he enjoy drinking your homebrew?

Luckily my girlfriend loves good beer, so never complains about my home brewing. Well she doesn't love me making yeast starters in the kitchen, but she deals. But I also have a house with a basement and garage where I can store all my equipment.

 

[Beernik]

It can be tough when space is a premium.

I've got almost all of my stuff in the garage. The rest is in the cellar. And that's where it stays until brewday.

My wife has always been supportive. I had some gear but had never got around to using it. She bought me two kits for my birthday.

These days, I make a couple beers she loves. I make sure there's always some of it around.

 

[jhoneycutt]

I can sorta understand the amount if space the equipment takes up. We lived in an apartment fir a long long while too. Basically yall will just have to make it all work. You're brewing all grain right? Make the dog some treats with the spent grains and see if he lightens up a bit. There a recipes galore for things to do with spent grains on here. It is hard to see a GUY weirded out by his woman brewing beer. Just the thought of my wife deciding to take up the hobby excites me a little lol.

 

[b-boy]

Homebrew equipment does take up a lot of space. Can you get any additional space to store your stuff? Maybe a storage area, or some space in your apartment building? If not, sounds like you just need to keep your setup as compact as possible.

As far as your husband goes, just explain how much you like brewing and see if you can get him involved. My wife is not supportive, but she lets me do my thing without too much hassle. I can live with that.

 

[flars]

Store your equipment vertically in a cabinet to take up less floor space. In the bottom of the cabinet a fancy dog bed and the water and kibble bowls.

All family members should be happy.

 

[madcore]

Have you thought about electric biab? A lot less stuff needed I can store everything in one pot to store and my wife is happy that she sees just the one pot when I'm not brewing.


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[Kirkwooder]

Look into brewing smaller batches. 1 gallon (4L) batches let you brew more often and the needed equipment takes up a lot less space. Even 2 1/2 (10) gallon batches cuts the needed storage space in half.

If that doesn't make him happy, start brewing in some sexy lingerie. Just a suggestion!

 

[billl]

If my brewing equipment was laying around like that, my wife wouldn't be happy either. A good start would be stacking the things that can be stacked and getting some sort of shelving to get everything organized. You look to have some pretty tall rooms, so you can get creative with storage options.

 

[Thedutchtouch]

Sounds like normal "getting used to each other" stuff to me. He will get over it... Or he won't. I scaled back a number of my hobbies when I got married, and others have increased. You should talk to him about it without going on the attack, and figure out some compromise. You can probably store your equipment more efficiently (out of sight, out of mind, perhaps a large piece of furniture that it'll all fit inside will seem less intrusive to him), and he can probably be nicer about it.

Out of curiosity, did you move into his place, or did you get a new place together/he move into yours? If the former, he's just not used to having to share everything/space yet.

 

[camilagss]

Sounds like normal "getting used to each other" stuff to me. He will get over it... Or he won't. I scaled back a number of my hobbies when I got married, and others have increased. You should talk to him about it without going on the attack, and figure out some compromise. You can probably store your equipment more efficiently (out of sight, out of mind, perhaps a large piece of furniture that it'll all fit inside will seem less intrusive to him), and he can probably be nicer about it.

Out of curiosity, did you move into his place, or did you get a new place together/he move into yours? If the former, he's just not used to having to share everything/space yet.

I moved into his place, so you're probably right. We just talked tonight about it and we'll figure out a way for me to store everything in a way that doesn't bother him or Chewbacca, our dog.

Thanks everyone for the tips, though.

Regarding brewing smaller batches and going BIAB; I don't think I want to do that. It's really hard to find equipment here in Brazil and getting ready of all of it to try and find new stuff would be really expensive.

Oh, I also like the sexy lingerie idea, although I don't think I'd ever want to be half-naked amongst gallons of boiling wort.

 

[plath]

Storage space is a huge issue here, too. I feel your pain. My current box of grains and box of bottles on the floor of our kitchen and fermenters sitting on the counter has my dh giving me the evil eye this week... hopefully he changes his tune when the bottles are done carbing...

Best of luck to you - sounds like you are working it out.

 

[madcore]

Wouldn't need new stuff for biab. I converted one of my old pots., but I do understand wanting to keep it the way you have been


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[Dan]

He loves you and you love him. Take you as you are or don't. Still a boyfriend, not a husband. Set the ground rules now. Comprimise is good but not if you're the only one comprimising.

edit: I reread your first post and you are already married, so calling things off is out of the question now. Like others have said, sort of, keep the mess and space used at a minimum. There isn't a whole lot more you can do and still brew.

If he likes your beer try to make him part of the process of brewing. Maybe he just feels left out? If he becomes part of your brewing world, it becomes the two of yours.. Maybe that will make the difference.

 

[camilagss]

He loves you and you love him. Take you as you are or don't. Still a boyfriend, not a husband. Set the ground rules now. Comprimise is good but not if you're the only one comprimising.

edit: I reread your first post and you are already married, so calling things off is out of the question now. Like others have said, sort of, keep the mess and space used at a minimum. There isn't a whole lot more you can do and still brew.

If he likes your beer try to make him part of the process of brewing. Maybe he just feels left out? If he becomes part of your brewing world, it becomes the two of yours.. Maybe that will make the difference.

His thoughts on home-brewing are not very positive. He thinks it's too much trouble to drink something that's not as good as store-bought craft beer. He loves beer, though, so one of my ultimate goals is to prove him wrong by brewing something specific to his taste that will blow his mind.

 

[plath]

His thoughts on home-brewing are not very positive. He thinks it's too much trouble to drink something that's not as good as store-bought craft beer. He loves beer, though, so one of my ultimate goals is to prove him wrong by brewing something specific to his taste that will blow his mind.

My dh is feeling the same way right now. It kind of sucks since I'm a new brewer and my first batch of beer (the only one he has tasted) wasn't that good- a crappy mr beer kit. I'm hoping I can change his mind with one of my new brews.


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[Hello]

Get rid of the husband.

 

[camilagss]

Get rid of the husband.

Sure thing. (Y)


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[camilagss]

My dh is feeling the same way right now. It kind of sucks since I'm a new brewer and my first batch of beer (the only one he has tasted) wasn't that good- a crappy mr beer kit. I'm hoping I can change his mind with one of my new brews.


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Let's do it.




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[MindenMan]

Before I married my wife, I had two requirements of a woman: she must enjoy red wine and dark beer. Ding,ding,ding. I did marry her. She and I both enjoy craft beers of all varieties, she fancies highly hopped beers, I usually didn't. Past tense, now that I have found some better blended hoppy beers, no problem at all. My wife bought me a brew kit from a LHBS, and the addiction fell into full bloom very soon. She started it, so she has to be a little flexible. Sorry off topic. I don't believe he is being fair, he knew you brewed before you got married. He needs to not be so territorial about "his" apartment. The first beer I brewed was drinkable, but just that, drinkable. It has been around two years since I started brewing, I develop my own recipes either from scratch, or modify one I think I could a great job with. I recently won a Best of Category Award for Porters and Stouts, and made my wife very proud of the monster she created. Ask for his help, even if you don't need it. That may just do the trick.

EDIT: If that doesn't work, then toss him out the picture window. Problem solved.

 

[plath]

Let's do it.




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[r2eng]

I think the previous posts about the space requirements for equipment and the fact you moved to his place could have something to do with it.

Stick with it, brew more beer of his favorite styles, and keep your spirits up. I have a very understanding, non-beer drinking spouse of 22 years. She used to complain a bit, be we worked it out. It'll be fine - you obviously care enough about the situation to ask for help, so good for you!

 

[jhoneycutt]

You do know it being made at home doesn't necessarily mean it won't be as good. Hell the best pale ale ive ever drank was one of my home brews. Likewise the worst India pale ale and dopplebock were also my home brews lol. Practice makes perfect.