Girlfriend hides everything (need advice)

[CreamyGoodness]

See... what I usually do I got the idea for from Upright Citizen's Brigade. Every night I put upwards of $3.00 in pennies in my anus. I then circulate these pennies the next day. Over time, the American money system has accumulated quite a lot of my anus-pennies.

Those people I am most upset with, just by law of averages, is handling, will handle or has handled one of my anus-pennies. Take THAT Elliot Spitzer!!

Passive aggression FTW!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I think it goes back to what was mentioned at the start. It's HER place. Not THEIR place.

I just don't think she can adapt to living with someone after having things her way for so long. It may be subconscious. I don't know. But putting your stuff away and not putting her stuff away sounds a lot to me like she thinks your stuff is in the way and her stuff is right where she wants it.

On the other hand, after 14 years, that Saran wrap was ready for a change.

Too hard to say. I think you are right, mostly, but dunno this girl from a glory hole.

My wife, however, is pathetically lazy. The saran wrap got a new home cause she was too goddamned lazy to walk her fat ass over to that other spot and the spot it lives at now was conveinient to her location when she needed to drop the fecking saran wrap ...

but I am not angry.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Just wanted to drop these off...

For the record, first pic, I would apologize or anything else she requested that morning.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

For the record, first pic, I would apologize or anything else she requested that morning.

I think I dated the one in the third pic. And, ironically, my wife is guilty of clandestine email reading.

 

[MyNameIsPaul]

I think I dated the one in the third pic. And, ironically, my wife is guilty of clandestine email reading.

Is the 4th Sarah Silverman?

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Is the 4th Sarah Silverman?

cap

 

[mcarb]

I think it goes back to what was mentioned at the start. It's HER place. Not THEIR place.

I just don't think she can adapt to living with someone after having things her way for so long. It may be subconscious. I don't know. But putting your stuff away and not putting her stuff away sounds a lot to me like she thinks your stuff is in the way and her stuff is right where she wants it.

On the other hand, after 14 years, that Saran wrap was ready for a change.

I think you nailed it.

 

[bob1852]

On the other hand, after 14 years, that Saran wrap was ready for a change.

Which begs the question....who has the same roll of Saran wrap for 14 years?

 

[JonM]

I think I dated the one in the third pic. And, ironically, my wife is guilty of clandestine email reading.

Email passwords are like toothbrushes. Never share and get a new one every couple months.


Oh, and you're mad because you dreamed that I cheated? Well I dreamed that I took you on a whirlwind clothes and shoe-shopping binge in Paris. How about a little appreciation?

 

[Homercidal]

Not me. I never have that stuff when I want it! I think it's time I bought my own and hid the wife's...

 

[bob1852]

Not me. I never have that stuff when I want it! I think it's time I bought my own and hid the wife's...

 

[Pumbaa]

Which begs the question....who has the same roll of Saran wrap for 14 years?

good question . . . I buy those BIG restaurant sized rolls (the 2000 footers) and I dont come anywhere near a year or 2 much less 14

 

[SharonaZamboni]

Oh, hell. You can live through power struggles for at least 25 years. If at least one of you is expert at passive-aggressive. And posts often on internet forums.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Not me. I never have that stuff when I want it! I think it's time I bought my own and hid the wife's...

I don't think Parisian fashion would suite you. But a 3 inch heel would make your calves look ... oh, wait, you meant the saran wrap.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Which begs the question....who has the same roll of Saran wrap for 14 years?

Might have used it more if he knew where to find it.

 

[mcarb]

See... what I usually do I got the idea for from Upright Citizen's Brigade. Every night I put upwards of $3.00 in pennies in my anus. I then circulate these pennies the next day. Over time, the American money system has accumulated quite a lot of my anus-pennies.

Those people I am most upset with, just by law of averages, is handling, will handle or has handled one of my anus-pennies. Take THAT Elliot Spitzer!!

Passive aggression FTW!

What you call passive aggression, I call a last resort. I have tried talking to her about it, but she doesn't understand my issue. In my mind, the only way to get this particular point across is to make her deal with it head on. She wants her new book, I know she does. Now she gets to look for the ****ing thing and when she gets around to asking me where it is, I'll tell her "Oh, yeah. I put it in the fridge. It seemed appropriate."

 

[BrazenHeadBeer]

Either talk to her and ask her to stop...or put your **** away. It sounds like shes cleaning up after you.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

What you call passive aggression, I call a last resort. I have tried talking to her about it, but she doesn't understand my issue. In my mind, the only way to get this particular point across is to make her deal with it head on. She wants her new book, I know she does. Now she gets to look for the ****ing thing and when she gets around to asking me where it is, I'll tell her "Oh, yeah. I put it in the fridge. It seemed appropriate."

When you said "she owns her house and has lived there a long time..."

Does this mean the title is free and clear, no lienholders, no mortgage? At most, you share the utility payments and the food bills?

If yes, then I think you get to either live with her psychosis until you are more than "a boyfriend living at her place" or decide that it's time to GTFO to prove your point.

Cause no matter what, it IS her place. Says so on the title.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

I have to ask... you came here looking for advice, and not one person said "do the hiding her crap thing" and thats what you are going to stick with? I know you are under no obligation to listen to anyone, but did you intend to just get into an argument with a bunch of relative strangers?

 

[mcarb]

Either talk to her and ask her to stop...or put your **** away. It sounds like shes cleaning up after you.

I talk to her about it constantly.

When you said "she owns her house and has lived there a long time..."

Does this mean the title is free and clear, no lienholders, no mortgage? At most, you share the utility payments and the food bills?

If yes, then I think you get to either live with her psychosis until you are more than "a boyfriend living at her place" or decide that it's time to GTFO to prove your point.

Cause no matter what, it IS her place. Says so on the title.

No, it means she has a mortgage and I am paying nearly half of it. But yes, the house is hers.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

No, it means she has a mortgage and I am paying nearly half of it. But yes, the house is hers.

Well, then it's time to GTFO unless you want to stay screwed.

Or does she hide that too?

 

[Pumbaa]

I have to ask... you came here looking for advice, and not one person said "do the hiding her crap thing" and thats what you are going to stick with?

I suggested something similar to that . . . so 1 person did

 

[KingBrianI]

I'm afraid I can't suggest the proper course of action to this situation until a picture has been submitted of the offender.

 

[edmanster]

Sounds like "give n take" relations.. She "gives" you a headache cleaning what she thinks is clutter and constantly changing her mind (female) and you "take" her stuff purposely and hid it!! What makes you think it's going to work teaching her a lesson like that? So, after talking to her and nothing changing what makes you think it ever will? Oh, that's right, your gonna teach her a lesson... What's so vested in the relationship that can't be found in another one? Love? If so then it should be, she "gives" you a headache and you "take" it or you get out as soon as you can!!

 

[TrainSafe]

i'm afraid i can't suggest the proper course of action to this situation until a picture has been submitted of the offender.

+1

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Ed, you are bringing logic and reason into this thread, and that is wholly unwelcome

 

[knotquiteawake]

Did anyone mention counseling? maybe get some professional help? Best to nip these issues off as early as possible. If regular communication fails then you need a mediator (counselor). If you don't think its worth paying for that then probably its time to move on.
there's my 2 internet cents for you.

 

[mcarb]

So you guys really suggest I just up and leave her? Yeah that's a solution.

For the record, I sent her an email from work saying that we need to discuss this issue because it truly is driving me crazy. I then told her where she can find her stuff.

 

[knotquiteawake]

definitely work it out. Get help. Most Churches offer free counseling. If you ain't the church type then there are plenty of other options too.

 

[MyNameIsPaul]

I think you should show her this thread.