Crazy damned wives

[GilaMinumBeer]

The poor economy is keeping many that would have otherwise separated together for economic reasons.

Stress brings about irrationality. Talking these things out in rational discussion can be difficult.

Meh. I don't stay with her because I need the money. I stay with her because 90% of the time she isn't BCS but that other 10% is brutal nonethe less. Only difference is, she never swiped coffee toward my son. And that, no matter how angry you are, is in-excusable.

Thankfully, it did not get to him.

 

[Schlenkerla]

Meh. I don't stay with her because I need the money. I stay with her because 90% of the time she isn't BCS but that other 10% is brutal nonethe less. Only difference is, she never swiped coffee toward my son. And that, no matter how angry you are, is in-excusable.

Thankfully, it did not get to him.

One day on the way out the door, she slapped me across the face real hard, because I forgot to do something. I'm WTF gives you the right to hit me, no matter how mad you are right now. I kept on repeating this to her and proceeded to antagonize her about this over a cell phone. Eventually, she apologized.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

One day on the way out the door, she slapped me across the face real hard, because I forgot to do something. I'm WTF gives you the right to hit me, no matter how mad you are right now. I kept on repeating this to her and proceeded to antagonize her about this over a cell phone. Eventually, she apologized.

I was wrong to do it but, I have had experience with girlfriends who are like this too. Push and Push because they know you'll not react. Current wifey has this tendancy too. One day she twisetd the screws to far and struck me, several times, for an issue that was meaningless. In a flash, she got a back hand across the cheek and realized that she could only push so far.

11 years and I've smacked her twice. I am not proud of it but, if she's man enough to deal the blows she'd better be man enough to take a couple back hands too. After all the smoke cleared, she admitted she desreved to be checked on both accounts. I am usually a very level headed guy in a conflict and it takes a LOT to push me to that line. trouble is, now she knows the line.

 

[Sanveann]

GMB, I would definitely (gently!) suggest that she seems to be really stressed out and that it might be helpful to her to talk to someone. Do NOT imply that you think she's crazy (even if you do) ... but present it in a way that says, "I'm worried about you."

The right combination of medication and therapy can make a world of difference. (Ask my husband, LOL! If I weren't on meds, I doubt we'd have ever made it to the altar, let alone STAYED married.)

 

[Schlenkerla]

I was wrong to do it but, I have had experience with girlfriends who are like this too. Push and Push because they know you'll not react. Current wifey has this tendancy too. One day she twisetd the screws to far and struck me, several times, for an issue that was meaningless. In a flash, she got a back hand across the cheek and realized that she could only push so far.

11 years and I've smacked her twice. I am not proud of it but, if she's man enough to deal the blows she'd better be man enough to take a couple back hands too. After all the smoke cleared, she admitted she desreved to be checked on both accounts. I am usually a very level headed guy in a conflict and it takes a LOT to push me to that line. trouble is, now she knows the line.

I usually one of us will bail out of the house for a few hours. If you sense its going that way, calmly say your heading out for bit. Offer to talk when you get back. Whatever you do...."Don't drink during that time out period." This usually works for me.

Sometimes, when I leave I fear for my carboys....

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I usually one of us will bail out of the house for a few hours. If you sense its going that way, calmly say your heading out for bit. Offer to talk when you get back. Whatever you do...."Don't drink during that time out period." This usually works for me.

Sometimes, when I leave I fear for my carboys....

I have been there too. SUCKS! Spiteful damned women on BCS rampage. I'd rather she be on the rag for a year than deal with 10 minutes of that crap. She's 10 time milder.

Maybe Alexis is right and our wives need to be medicated. I hear Lithium is effective.

 

[Schlenkerla]

Occasionally mine gets this bright idea she doesn't need the meds. Hers are anti-anxiety (panic attacks). So not real serious - It help reduce the spazes.

After a series episodes I clue into this fact and ask about it, some times its a dangerous question.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Yeowtch!

Yeah, my wife would prolly "forget" them too. She will rarely take an aspirin for a headache.

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

GMB, I would definitely (gently!) suggest that she seems to be really stressed out and that it might be helpful to her to talk to someone. Do NOT imply that you think she's crazy (even if you do) ... but present it in a way that says, "I'm worried about you."

The right combination of medication and therapy can make a world of difference. (Ask my husband, LOL! If I weren't on meds, I doubt we'd have ever made it to the altar, let alone STAYED married.)

Wow! 27 posts and still in the last 5 new members list? You are prolific considering how fast the site membership grows here!

Welcome! We need more vocal lady brewers!

 

[Sanveann]

Wow! 27 posts and still in the last 5 new members list? You are prolific considering how fast the site membership grows here!

Welcome! We need more vocal lady brewers!

Thanks This is a great board! Very glad to be here.

Guess I'm never at a loss for things to say

 

[Philip1993]

A 6 month old and a 3 yr old means that you're both sleep deprived, peace deprived, and sex deprived. She has weird hormones coursing though her body making her think weird thoughts. You are stretched thin and working double time and can't get a moment to think straight. That sucks. In 2 more years you'll all be happy again. Suck it up, be a good dad and husband to the best of your ability and treasure the good moments. It gets better.

+1. Before his first baby, my best friend asked me what was the one piece of advice I would give a soon to be dad. It to him to be prepared for exactly what you just described. I've worked triples and not been as tired as I was after a good nights sleep with a new baby. You think it's not that bad, but months of nightly sleep interruptions really starts to add up and affect your mental state.

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Thanks This is a great board! Very glad to be here.

Guess I'm never at a loss for things to say

We have an introduction section here too. Check it out and do your intro officially.

 

[Sanveann]

We have an introduction section here too. Check it out and do your intro officially.

I did -- I'm "yet another Michigander"

 

[Sanveann]

+1. Before his first baby, my best friend asked me what was the one piece of advice I would give a soon to be dad. It to him to be prepared for exactly what you just described. I've worked triples and not been as tired as I was after a good nights sleep with a new baby. You think it's not that bad, but months of nightly sleep interruptions really starts to add up and affect your mental state.

Ditto this. The sleep deprivation, the constantly being needed ... and add in the fact that they don't feel comfortable leaving their kids with other people, the wife is working outside the home AND she's dealing with her mom's immigration issues ... sounds like she's mega-stressed and overtired.

(Incidentally, I will pause here to be grateful for my in-laws. No matter HOW insane my MIL makes me, she is always happy to watch the kids and takes great care of them.)

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I did -- I'm "yet another Michigander"

Not to mention she posed in her whites (with the Amish guy) in the SWMBO thread.

Where have you been LGI? Get with it maaaan.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Ditto this. The sleep deprivation, the constantly being needed ... and add in the fact that they don't feel comfortable leaving their kids with other people, the wife is working outside the home AND she's dealing with her mom's immigration issues ... sounds like she's mega-stressed and overtired.

(Incidentally, I will pause here to be grateful for my in-laws. No matter HOW insane my MIL makes me, she is always happy to watch the kids and takes great care of them.)

Ohhhhh. How I WISH we had a more solidified family. Sad bit is, my MIL is more BSC than my wife. Having her in the house is NOT going to be fun for anyone. She's literally put a child on the poarch casue it wouldn;t stop crying.

That child was my wife. Sure I think stress has a LOT to do with this but, there is also no dismissing that BSC was bred into her. I give the house a week after her mother arrive befoire the walls come crumbling down.

 

[Sanveann]

Ohhhhh. How I WISH we had a more solidified family. Sad bit is, my MIL is more BSC than my wife. Having her in the house is NOT going to be fun for anyone. She's literally put a child on the poarch casue it wouldn;t stop crying.

That child was my wife. Sure I think stress has a LOT to do with this but, there is also no dismissing that BSC was bred into her. I give the house a week after her mother arrive befoire the walls come crumbling down.

Oh, wow.

Out of curiosity, where is your wife's family from? (Wondering if there are cultural differences coming into play here.)

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Ohh. For sure lots of cultural differences. Wife is from Melacca, Malaysia. Tanjung Kling. Grew up with the villiage Muslim types. BSC is their way of life which is why she left.

Problem here is, my wife is climbing that hill. Finally, has brought something truely astonishing into the world and has no bloodline family to share them with. Down side is every couple years she "forgets" that she can't tolerate her bloodline for more than a week.

True story. Early in our marriage she took a trip home. We couldn;t afford for the both of us to go and I had no vacation time accrued but, she was desparately home sick as she hadn't been home in 5 years. The flight there was 39 hours, she had only had her feet on the ground for 36 before she called begging me to arrange an emergency flight back home.

It's been nearly 3 years since she's been home and her memory has gone to sleep again.

It's a good thing she's pretty and good in bed. Cause she's a lot of crap to deal with.

 

[Sanveann]

My mom is the EXACT same way. A few years ago, she was talking about leaving Dad and going to live with my grandmother. She forgets that they can't stand to be in the same room for more than about 12 hours -- inconvenient, since Grandma lives halfway across the country!

 

[jgln]

Ohh. For sure lots of cultural differences. Wife is from Melacca, Malaysia. Tanjung Kling. Grew up with the villiage Muslim types. BSC is their way of life which is why she left.

Problem here is, my wife is climbing that hill. Finally, has brought something truely astonishing into the world and has no bloodline family to share them with. Down side is every couple years she "forgets" that she can't tolerate her bloodline for more than a week.

True story. Early in our marriage she took a trip home. We couldn;t afford for the both of us to go and I had no vacation time accrued but, she was desparately home sick as she hadn't been home in 5 years. The flight there was 39 hours, she had only had her feet on the ground for 36 before she called begging me to arrange an emergency flight back home.

It's been nearly 3 years since she's been home and her memory has gone to sleep again.

It's a good thing she's pretty and good in bed. Cause she's a lot of crap to deal with.

Yeah, from the picture you posted she is cute.

 

[jgln]

Hey, I checked out that Muslim matrimony link you have in your profile. On the first women's page there is a very pretty 26 year old looking for a man between the ages of 18-80. What's up with that? I mean, hope for me I guess should I want a pretty 26 year old one day but strange. She also talks about serious long term relationships, with 80 year olds? Wonder why she put the limit at 80? LOL

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Yeah, from the picture you posted she is cute.

Thanks for that. The one I live with is on the far left side, roundfaced, pudgy, and not afraid to show her hair.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Hey, I checked out that Muslim matrimony link you have in your profile. On the first women's page there is a very pretty 26 year old looking for a man between the ages of 18-80. What's up with that? I mean, hope for me I guess should I want a pretty 26 year old one day but strange. She also talks about serious long term relationships, with 80 year olds? Wonder why she put the limit at 80? LOL

Huh? Where? What link? Sure it wasn't just an advert?

Not sure about the age limit. Maybe she's figure an 80 year old is less likely to want multiple wives or worse, to play the field. that, and maybe she figures he's more likely to have provisions.

 

[jgln]

Huh? Where? What link? Sure it wasn't just an advert?

At the bottom of your public profile, it is still there, thought you put it there.

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Where have you been LGI? Get with it maaaan.

Sorry. I was brewing today. Smacked wristy for me!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

At the bottom of your public profile, it is still there, thought you put it there.

Nope. I think that's an advert. Not there for me. I get a car advert 2010 Fusion Hybrid.

Tempting. Ford is the only maker (of the big 3) that has opted to honor their debts.

 

[AnonyBrew]

FYI.....you are not alone on the crazy wife issue. I too am living the experience. I am also not allowed to take charge of the kids then criticized for not helping enough. Several times I've had to leave for a few hours, usually straight to the bar.

 

[jgln]

]Nope. I think that's an advert. Not there for me. I get a car advert 2010 Fusion Hybrid.[/B]

Tempting. Ford is the only maker (of the big 3) that has opted to honor their debts.

I like the link I see WAY more better! :rockin:

 

[jgln]

Huh? Where? What link? Sure it wasn't just an advert?

Not sure about the age limit. Maybe she's figure an 80 year old is less likely to want multiple wives or worse, to play the field. that, and maybe she figures he's more likely to have provisions.

Muslim Dating, Muslim Singles, Muslim Personals & Muslim Women at MuslimEuro.com

Here is the link, but I am not sure it will I am sure it can be found. And every time I look it is still there.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Muslim Dating, Muslim Singles, Muslim Personals & Muslim Women at MuslimEuro.com

Here is the link, but I am not sure it will I am sure it can be found. And every time I look it is still there.

Ha. Prolly picks up the keyword "Muslim" from my signature.