Good thing is we are involving two households lol.... It's amazing the hoops me and him will go through to get this started. Any brewerys in my area (monticello, In) wanna divulge any information to me?
For homebrewing laws, I tend to look at the intent of the law, as opposed to the letter of the law. The intent of most homebrew laws, is to keep you from making a business out of it. I'm sure there are parts that are there to keep you from becoming a raging alcoholic, but let's be honest here, there are a lot cheaper ways to become an alcoholic. Plus, I don't see myself brewing over 200 gallons in one year. And the only time I ever take homebrew out of my house, is to share one with my neighbor.
The two household thing has seen a couple discussions on these boards though before. There is kind of a gray area there. Weather or not the brewing of "Beer" happens when you pithc the yeast or if it starts with boiling wort, etc. Most have come to the conclusion that it's where it's fermented is really what matters.
That being said, each state is a little different. And I truly believe, in the end, the main goal is to keep you from being able to produce enough beer, to make it viable for you to sell it. I really don't see the ATF coming after anyone for sharing a couple of bottles of beer amongst friends. I think the real problems would start if you got pulled over with a car full of homebrew that looked like you were actually trying to deliver a shipment to someone. But, be aware, we are talking about laws here. Is it likely you'll get pulled over for going 27 in a 25 mph zone, doubtful, but the officer would be well within his rights to right you a ticket for it, if he felt like it.