There's a million good restaurants, I'll let others speak to that. Outside of what you listed, Mikkellar is a cool spot, but pricey. Toronado is OG, but dive-bar-y. Faction is cool (take the ferry from SF!) and Fieldworks was better than expected on the east side of the bay. If you're on the peninsula, check out Ale Arsenal and Gourmet Haus Staudt.
Not sure how to address your last question. Are you a really bad driver?
Ha. I wasn't sure how close it was to San Francisco. I won't have a car and it seems a little too far away since I'll be out there for work.