For sparging, that depends on how big of a beer you are making. If its not a big beer and your kettle is large enough, you probably don't have to sparge.
For grain ratio, the Aussies say below a 0.30 gallons (1.2 quarts)/lb of grain can begin giving you dough ball issues. However, normally you can go higher like DRoyLenz who went with 1.65 quarts/lb in his guide (
https://www.homebrewtalk.com/f14/all-grain-brewing-extract-brewing-equipment-pics-142648/). I think its pretty forgiving. Try to use a higher water to grain ratio to avoid sparging.
The numbers I got are from a calculator spreadsheet tool (from the site I linked above). I have yet to do my first BIAB, so hopefully a more experienced BIAB brewer can comment!
For what it is worth, using this calculator I've mentioned, I will be making an IPA with a 10.5 lb grain bill in a 5 gallon kettle. This will be a 3.5 gallon batch after fermentation. I'll have 3.7 gallons of water in the kettle at dough in, giving me a 0.35 gallons/lb of grain ratio. The calculator says to have another half gallon (0.4) of water to add in after dough in to make it easier, so this bumps up that ratio a bit. My total mash volume with grains and all will be 4.6 gallons. Since this is a bigger beer and I have a small (5 gallon) kettle, I will have to sparge with around 2.7 gallons of water to add into the boil. All of this takes into account the grain absorption and boil off. Hopefully, this calculator tool will be in the ballpark for me.
Another big difference I see between this site and what the Aussie BIAB brewers say is that squeezing the bag is actually a good thing, not a bad thing. They propose that excess tannins are not produced from squeezing. I've read an entire thread on what methods people use to squeeze their bags. One method, which I will be using, is to twist the bag while holding it over the kettle. Then, drop it into a second vessel that has an upside down colander in it, and squeeze it with a pan lid. Then, twist again and squeeze about 4-5 times. One Aussie said that he gained an entire gallon of water this way for his 5 gallon batch (
http://www.biabrewer.info/viewtopic.php?f=21&t=586&hilit=squeeze)!