Here is a bit of advice from the king of the ********!!!
Ft bragg NC 1990, i got me a band new barracks room and a smelly turd of a roommate that wanted to do nothing but read hustler and jerk off 6 feet from me while i tried to sleep. Went out, met a nice girl, and decided that i was in love and wanted to marry after our long courtship. (Translation: Had to get out of that ****ing barracks and the first buffarilla i found that would marry my sorry ass after dating two weeks is a keeper!)
Got throught the first gulf war alright(It was a joke of a deployment). Then got sent to support the tenth mountain in somalia, came back and nothing was the same. Life was too short to waste with someone who was nothing more than BAQ and VHA with the FSA to boot. (All those things are called something else now i know.) Knocked her up on the way out though, still got that payment for another three years.(Love my kid though).
Several years nd many physical, mental and emotional scars later i retired from the military(PEB), met a girl, got married and am very happy. You do not see the world as most of these idiots on here do. They have not been through an experience that forces you to be cold and unreceptive to the emotions of others(even those we love). They certainly dont realize what it is like to be afraid 24 hours a day 7 days a week for months at a time, and then suddenly your home and every problem they have is a catastrophy to them but a mere annoyance to you.
Listen to MP, go see the chaps, go see the doc's, and if you really love ur wife, take her with you. Its still fixable. If she is just a wa to secure lodging off post then get rid of her, put both of you out of what is certainly to be an escallating bad situation.