She's not living 'with' him.
She stays there with his dog while he is not in the city.
the_bird said:Let me get this straight, though.
She's driving from Philly, to the Jersey shore, every week... to dog-sit.
That doesn't seem... odd?
She's not living 'with' him.
She stays there with his dog while he is not in the city.
ReverseApacheMaster said:It doesn't sound like either of you are happy. In fact, both of you are probably incredibly miserable all the time. It won't get better.
You may feel selfish about leaving her now but whether you want it to happen or not she is in the process of leaving you. Until she decides she can financially support herself she is going to continue to build all the other parts of a separate life from you, including other guys. However, she will kindly continue to pretend you have a relationship with her so she can continue to live off of you. The second she can do it on her own she will outwardly end your relationship.
She has already made the decision to end the relationship. It's just a question of how long you will let her milk off of you.
So she says.
just a little FYI, my mother was house sitting for a guy, they are now married and my father has lost everything he had.
just a little FYI, my mother was house sitting for a guy, they are now married and my father has lost everything he had.
Let me add my ha'penny. Ask anyone you know who is happily married what they do when they need time alone to "just be". For me its youtube videos and computer games. Some of them go fishing or catch a game with their friends. Maybe they go have a beer with the girls or the guys at the bar...
Y'know what I guarentee none of them are doing? Staying at their ex's dog sitting.
theredbeard said:run!
The relationship is over. If your not sure if its over go and ask the ex if he is banging her. RUN! When I say run that doesn't mean you have to move from your place. Get her crap out of your place and put it on the ex's front yard. Then become completely unavailable to her. NO communication, do not call her, do not answer her calls, do not text her, do not Facebook, no smoke signals, no pigeons with little notes strapped to its leg... Nothing! Then get to know yourself. Brew beer, hang with your bros, listen to music, burp then fart, go hunting then fishing, get front row seats to a drag race, and go to as many sporting events as possible. The point being is that you have no idea who you are, and that is your ultimate problem. You sound like a good dude and I hope the best for you. I will have a pint on your behalf. Oh and if possible try and get the ring back. I am sure that was not cheap.
I just dont want the OP to get too hung up on whether or not there is banging. If there is banging its an "oh yeah, and she was BANGING him too!"...
Run, run fast and run far and when you're done running, run some more then hop on a train, then a plane, then start running again, repeat from beginning.
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