My wife (who drinks all types of beer and brews) has an interesting theory on why some women don't like certain beers. It's a generalization and unsupported by evidence but it is a very good theory nevertheless.
Think about women's perfume versus men's.
Women's perfume tends to be light and floral, sometimes just a hint of sweetness. Very much like an IPA and many other types of hoppy beers.
Men's perfume (sorry, cologne :cross: ) tends to be more musky, woodsy, more rustic. Very much like a real ale or other casked or oaked brew.
Many women (as well as plenty of men) suffer from years of marketing by various corporations. They have been indoctrinated into thinking that they should not be able to "taste their alcohol" and that beer is just another alcohol delivery device.
Lastly, for the people who say they prefer wine don't necessarily like wine, they just dislike the social image of other alcoholic beverages. The erroneous term "beer gut" alone does more disservice to the industry than any other and is perhaps responsible for the flood of disgusting (but non-fattening!
) "light" beers on the market today.
So here's a few things to try:
If she is sexually secure and hetero-, give her a good oaked brew. Be sure to emphasize that it isn't a "manly" beer but to think of it more as making out with a good-smelling man. People relate memories/fantasies most strongly to their sense of smell and the mental connection may be enjoyable to her. Good oaked ale is tough to get in the US, I'll grant you, but if you can get your hands on, say, Innis & Gunn, give it a try.
If she is very girly (I won't say lesbian but perhaps just very buddy-buddy with her girlfriends as some women tend to be), give her a very floral, aromatic brew. Highly-hopped beer is often bitter so a less-intense beer such as, say, Fat Tire, might be a better place to start. Again, be sure to tell her to be very aware of the aroma. The mental equation may be to good times/friendship as above.
If all else fails, use fire.
Er, I mean, brew mead.
It's impossible to object to good mead.
ETA: Do not, under any circumstances whatsoever, pay money for Sam Adam's Cherry Wheat. :wretch: It's like Bud Light with Robitussin added for flavor. SA makes some great beer but that one is unfathomably horrid.
-IMHO-